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And how is "BEST" to be defined? Does this not drag God's perspective into the evaluation?
I trust my wife in a myriad of ways, none of which involve duct tape.
Interestingly the Song of Solomon is often seen as a metaphor for Christ and the Church.
Jesus washed their feet, He didn't bind them with chains.
I agree. I tend to think that people that want to do those things are using their spouse, not being in union with them.
I would question the DSM in BDSM, but not the B. That B is just plain old good fun.
Actually, I wouldn't question it. I wouldn't practice it, but I wouldn't question what another couple decides they want in their bedroom. I trust that grownup married couples will find whatever works best for them.
I am actually also a bit surprised that no women have weighed in on this attempted degradation of them as it began with a misconceived notion of what the Bible means about the submissiveness of women to men.
I'm not reading all of the posts in this thread. I'm just going to say this and let that be the end of it.A topic that I would like to discuss is, can you have a healthy Christian marriage and incorporate elements of S&M and bondage? Of course it would have to consensual and in a loving relationship.
Some people would argue that bondage and Dominance and Submission are fundamentally demeaning to dignity of the human person, and even if done for fun or recognized as play such actions will not promote a healthy relationship between husband and wife.
On the other hand, some would say that husband is called to be the head of the household Ephesians 5:22-26, and this would also be true for the bedroom as well. So the husband as the caring dominant partner and the wife as the more submissive partner would be natural and biblical.
The articles on this website seem to mock Christian teaching, but this one actually makes sense, I would not recommend reading any of the other articles on this site though
http://www.sexinchrist.com/submission.html
(I know this is kind of a taboo topic, so I told the kids to stay out)
Christian marriage and incorporate elements of S&M and bondage? Of course it would have to consensual and in a loving relationship
You wouldn't condone it for yourself but you would permit it as acceptable to others? Do you see a problem with that reasoning Mike?
367. What are the sources of the morality of human acts?
1749-1754
1757-1758
The morality of human acts depends on three sources: the object chosen, either a true or apparent good; the intention of the subject who acts, that is, the purpose for which the subject performs the act; and the circumstances of the act, which include its consequences.
368. When is an act morally good?
1755-1756
1759-1760
An act is morally good when it assumes simultaneously the goodness of the object, of the end, and of the circumstances. A chosen object can by itself vitiate an act in its entirety, even if the intention is good. It is not licit to do evil so that good may result from it. An evil end corrupts the action, even if the object is good in itself. On the other hand, a good end does not make an act good if the object of that act is evil, since the end does not justify the means. Circumstances can increase or diminish the responsibility of the one who is acting but they cannot change the moral quality of the acts themselves. They never make good an act which is in itself evil.
528. What is forbidden by the ninth commandment?
2517-2519
2531-2532
The ninth commandment forbids cultivating thoughts and desires connected to actions forbidden by the sixth commandment.
529. How does one reach purity of heart?
2520
In the battle against disordered desires the baptised person is able, by the grace of God, to achieve purity of heart through the virtue and gift of chastity, through purity of intention, purity of vision (both exterior and interior), discipline of the imagination and of feelings and by prayer.
530. What are the other requirements for purity?
2521-2527
2533
Purity requires modesty which, while protecting the intimate center of the person, expresses the sensitivity of chastity. It guides how one looks at others and behaves toward them in conformity with the dignity of persons and their communion. Purity frees one from wide-spread eroticism and avoids those things which foster morbid curiosity. Purity also requires a purification of the social climate by means of a constant struggle against moral permissiveness which is founded on an erroneous conception of human freedom.
Colleen
I am sorry, I did not mean to offend you, the article goes a little over the top and it is not from a good website, but some of the points it makes are valid IMHO
Mike
of course, I tried to stress that I am only talking about consenting couples
Hi Steve...OK ... let's say the couple is into degrading language and both enjoy it. By your principle it is not wrong. Yet degradation is the opposite of edification (building up one another).
To be right shouldn't God's standards and not our enjoyment be the true yardstick of what is "healthy"?
528. What is forbidden by the ninth commandment?
2517-2519
2531-2532
The ninth commandment forbids cultivating thoughts and desires connected to actions forbidden by the sixth commandment.