I've been married 6 yrs, dated husband 6yrs prior, we did not live together so I never saw the true extent to his laziness. We have 4 kids, both work full-time, I have outside employment, he is self-employed as a farmer and small business owner. Both areas of his businesses are failing, we are so in debt, I want him to sell what he can and get out, but he refuses to listen to me. He has an expensive hobby (race car driver) that he does every weekend from April to September and he refused to give that up. He doesn't help out with the house or any yard work, on his time off he's mostly on the couch watching television. I am so angry and so resentful of him, I find it hard to look at him. What can I do as a Christian to get rid of the anger and resentment. He refuses counseling, what can I do for myself since he refuses to open his eyes? Help?