Calminian said:
I dont know guys, you seem to be taking this a little too far (I have no idea how to make that into an "I" statement).
How about "Guys, I think this is going a little too far."
Its one thing to be nice and respectful, but another to hold back opinions in a forum like this for fear someone will get their feelings hurt.
I don't think you would have liked Paul too much. He said many things that hurtmade people pretty mad in his day. Yet it was out of love.
It takes practice to not hold back while being respectful, and I know I haven't mastered it. But holding back is not what is called for.
As for Paul, well there is a sense in which the gospel will offend. The aim is to be sure it is the gospel that offends, not the preacher of the gospel.
This seems to be in accordance with liberal feelings based morality. If its different tell me how. Any time you express an opinion on subjects like these, someone's feelings are going to be hurt.
It's basically what has been stated before. Go for the theology not the person.
And don't restate your own theology as if it were the other person's theology. A common example that turns up from time to time is the consequence of a belief in a non-literal Adam. TEs who don't believe in a literal Adam are often told something along the line of "Then YOU don't believe Paul when he speaks of sin and death entering the world through Adam." Even if that statement is made with a ? at the end, this is dumping a creationist theology on to a TEs head and implying that the TE does not respect scripture.
The same point can be made just as forcefully as an I statement. e.g.
"Paul's statement about sin and death entering the world through Adam doesn't make sense to ME if Adam was not a literal person. Can you explain your thinking on this?"
In the second form the creationist is taking responsibility for his/her own theology without subtly implying disrespect for scripture on the part of the TE, as the first form does.
There is true racism and sexism, but unfortunately that card is over played to the point that it actually harms race/gender relations.
Offensiveness is truly a harmful thing but in today's day and age, hypersensitivity is doing far more harm.
In fact, this is a question that people subject to racism raise themselves. Here is an example that was presented to me. The largest visible minority in our church is Korean and we always have a significant number of Koreans at our major church gatherings.
Last June a Korean professor happened to be sitting next to a non-Korean during a break while a number of other Koreans were sitting together at a near-by table. The non-Korean said to the professor something along the line of "Why don't you go and sit with your people?"
What is the Korean professor to think of this? She asks herself, "What does he mean by this? Am I being over-sensitive if I take this as racism? Or should he be told how offensive this sounds to me?"
And the problem is that she doesn't really know his motives. Is it just an unfortunate choice of words? Or does he really believe she should stay in her place with "her people" and not sit beside him? Is he rejecting her or trying to be gracious to her? There is no way to read his mind. And even trying to ask him what he means could hurt
his feelings.
Why do I have the feeling I've offended somebody?
No, I don't think so. But this whole area is a mine-field, and it is not easy to avoid an explosion. All we can do is try our best. One way we can do that is to accept that when people say they are hurt by something, they really are hurt, whether or not that was our intention.