Won without a word...
This is from scripture and its applied to the way to win in argument or dispute or one who is trying to start or engage in one, the correct way how to show submission and/by still giving and showing respect in a relationship, in scripture applied to the female, but can be applied to one of either sex, (usually the feminine one) in a relationship and I'm going to prove to you and show you how it works when done right.
How you win them without a word, is to not give them the "satisfaction of any reaction" on your part, if you do, you will usually (both) lose. Doing this right is not easy, it is hard. If you do give them the satisfaction of any kind of reaction, this is usually actually what their wanting and looking for and can even become addicted to, and you'll just be "fueling the/their fire" and you must deny them this while not showing any disrespect.
You may (actually almost guaranteed you will) be tempted to fight back or some become afraid and cower to the other cause someone trying to (sickly, most often) start something all the time by getting upset or worse aggressive and belligerent.
This is because you'll have to fight the "fight or flight" instinctual reaction. The third response is usually, you will be tempted to do something like cross your arms and roll your eyes or tap your foot and give them that look like "really, do I really have to put up with and deal with this childish crap again and again, and again, this is getting really old" kind of look or body language.
But, this also fuels the fire and isn't good and is not how you biblically "win without a word" (or any kind of reaction at all). Do not show anything. Definitely don't cower in fear and constantly apologize and try to appease them, cowering at their feet and catering to them, this is the worst thing you can do.
You must practice the "dead cow" look, not give them any reaction at all whatsoever and look them in the eye when doing it, (this is how Jesus won against the Devil, during his trial, persecution, and execution/crucification by the way) Anyhow, do not give them the satisfaction of any kind of reaction (examine what and how Jesus handled it in the Bible that I told you).
This will turn you into a mirror that will reflect back to them their own ugliness and depending on how the other one reacts to this, it will tell you if you truly have a Godly mate or not. Their, some of them, will get even more [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ed off at your doing this right and may intensify their attack and may even strike or hit you, but, "hold your ground" get back up if you have to, and stand up straight, look them in the eye, and continue to not speak and give them the "dead cow" look and don't give in.
If they continue to strike you cause they can't handle facing themselves which is what your conduct in this is doing, then you do not have a Godly mate. And you probably shouldn't stay in the relationship. Or if they do not break down at some point over this and just continue to do it, (trying to start something over and over again), and your doing this does not seem to be working, then you do not have a Godly mate. And you'll have to decide just how much of it you can "take" and how long you can continue to do this before you have to get out of it and leave it and them behind and move on with your life.
Realize their acting like a child, but a child that you can't spank or discipline or punish in any kind of way, cause their an adult for one, and for two, their your spouse or mate. If this doesn't seem to work, you may have to decide the right time to just get out of it and leave it and them behind. If they see themselves in the mirror, and later on, perhaps after cooling off, and calming down, and start to apologize and show you signs that this seems to be working, then their is hope for them, be gentle with them, yet honest if this happens when they are talking about it and you get into a discussion about it. And stay in the relationship if their seems to be hope, if not, after a while of doing this, get out of it.
God Bless!
I did this and went though a lot of these kind of reactions or responses in a relationship for far too long, before I learned this, tried it out for many years and it did not work, finally got desperate and tried to force them and make them look in the mirror, which was when I knew to get out cause nothing was working and the way it began to affect me after trying this that was no longer good for either of us any more.
She still acts like a two year old child despite all of this and I just do not have and run out of patience for or with her anymore, and I fear what I might do around her now, which means it's time to get out and stay out fir good, cause it will never no longer be any good for either of us anymore.
God Bless!
