There is a difference when your loved one dies when you are in the frame of mind that this is a possiblity and have started to plan for your potential death....and when it is a complete surprise and at an age when you don't expect it. We emptied my husbands 401K to live on when he was alive and fighting cancer...with the intention that he would live and be able to build it back up. He did once but not so lucky second time. No estate planning was done yet because he wasn't even 40 for most of his fight...and we were still taking care of kids that hadn't reach their teen years yet. He died 11 weeks after the diagnosis of the return of cancer. Considering his only symptoms were expected side effects of the treatments...there wasn't even time to think about it after we knew it came back. He was planning on living and the doctors were optomistic too.
My husband died without a will. For some reason he felt that if he had a will, he would die. I am not so sure how many 41 year old men actually have taken the time to pay for a will.
The churches are void of help for people like me. Money to help with little league fees and baseball bats isn't normally in the "widows fund" or even something they think about. Your mother was lucky enough to have grown children. I was still raising mine.
My husband died without a will. For some reason he felt that if he had a will, he would die. I am not so sure how many 41 year old men actually have taken the time to pay for a will.
The churches are void of help for people like me. Money to help with little league fees and baseball bats isn't normally in the "widows fund" or even something they think about. Your mother was lucky enough to have grown children. I was still raising mine.
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