So, here's the thing. Last night just opened this up. Because I have backslidden, I have been a mess. I have a few sins that I am especially venerable too, one is lust and the other is lying. Those were my two biggest falls. I love my wife, I love her so much but I have a problem I couldn't kick until I came to Jesus, my wonderful Shepard, Lord, and Savior. So last night, I told a lie. I thought maybe it was to spare her feelings. To me she's beautiful, but because she's got some self esteem issues I am always very careful to tell her she's always beautiful, etc. So last night, I told a lie thinking that if I didn't say this she's going to feel not beautiful. I don't even know why I said it, old habit I guess. Sorry I'm not going to say it, it's personal and I feel inappropriate to talk about along my brothers and sisters in Christ. Anyway, it ate me up so I told her the truth because I didn't wanna lie, I know God doesn't approve of this. So after I had hurt her so badly, I had betrayed her trust. We decided since we got in it was going to be an open relationship with no secrets, but I had an addiction and I couldn't kick it without the help of Jesus. So she asked if there was anything else I was lying about, I said just that... Another lie.. So I repented, and am going to tell her the truth about everything, because it would please God and He hates lying. I just know my marriage is going to end.. But I had, like a lot of men, a P&#N addiction. Again I love my wife very much but I had this, and then I was seeing someone shortly before we got into an official relationship, but we're still seeing eachother. I have also, to my total and complete shame, have posted on Craigslist. Now nothing has come of this because I never went to meet anyone. But I still emailed, I enjoyed the dirty talk and thoughts. Stuff I was afraid to ask of my wife. So I have, in other words, cheated on her, and i feel like I'm so low right now. Now God forgives us but we still have consequences to our actions. I know this, and I'm dreading this. The thing is though, I wanna hide this not to save my own skin per sei, but because I don't want to hurt her, or see her cry. I would deserve this, I really would. She though, she doesn't deserve this, she's so much better than this. I really do feel worse for her than I do myself, because I have brought this on myself. But I must get things right, tell her everything and then fall on God's mercy for this awful wickedness I have done. Feeling so low right now. I have repented for everything last night including the lie but i feel to fix this I should come clean. Please pray for me and my marriage brothers and sisters, as this is going to be very hard for me. It is what I deserve no doubt, but I don't care about me I care about how she's gonna feel. It's gonna hurt me seeing her hurt more so than me doing this. I really hope she doesn't try to harm herself or anything. Just when we started going to church together too. I feel awful for what I've done, but even worse for what I've done to her. Anyone else ever been here?