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ImperialPhantom
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How often do you feel regret for an action that you know was absolutely was right?
In some instances regret does have a lot to do with the "wrongness" of an action. There were plenty of times when I struggled with trying to reinforce boundaries because I knew there were problems with the relationship and it didn't appear that we were going to get married.
You can feel regret for doing something that's not wrong, absolutely. If you walk alone through a dark alley in New York City, and you get attacked by a mugger, you're going to regret walking through the alley. Does it make it wrong? No.
Okay, so again, that is not completely consensual, when one has to pressure the other to do it. I'm not in the business of pressuring anyone to break their boundaries. I'm in the business of mutual consent, without pressure involved.eatenbylocusts said:And the feeling-used example was not my situation. I broke up with my ex-bf. I regret having those intimate (not intercourse) memories because it was even harder to keep that break up permanent. We shared a lot physically and emotionally and I miss all of that even though the break up needed to happen. I regret not having more restraint because I wouldn't want my future bf/h engaging in that kind of activity with every gf. I was asking you and others to consider how a woman might feel, especially if she was pushed beyond the boundaries that she had wanted to keep. And it doesn't matter if the activity was consensual. There can be lasting grief, regret, etc. the following day, month, year. I don't expect you to know how some women might feel. We are wired differently. I'm just telling you how many women feel when a relationship ends and they've gone "too far". Consider your fellow believer. Are you helping or hindering them in their walk? Is the activity you're engaging in/thinking of engaging in, possibly going to cause them pain in the future? Wouldn't it be better to err on the cautious side? If you say no, then you might want to really consider how much you really care for the person if you're putting your desires before the woman's well-being/spiritual walk.
The thought of a man holding back from pushing boundaries because he respects the woman; that is a man after my heart.
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