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Premarital Oral Sex

Discussion in 'Courting Couples' started by PirateChris, Jul 17, 2007.

  1. PirateChris

    PirateChris Junior Member

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  2. LonesomeTexan

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    Oral sex is still sex in my book. Someone that has had oral sex is far from being a virgin in my book. Virginity isn't just about the penis entering the vagina. Being a virgin in my book is being pure of any type of sexual encounter with another. People that have done everything but regular sex that believe there are still virgins have a messed up sense of what it means to be virgin.
     
  3. seehimcoming

    seehimcoming Guest

    If you did not think it was wrong, then you would not have posed this question. Just save it for wedlock mate. Really as a Christian you are not bound by Law but we aim to please God. That's it.
     
  4. HisLilyWhitePrincess

    HisLilyWhitePrincess Contributor Supporter

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    Oral SEX. It has the word sex right in it's name (and yes I am aware there are other names, but anyway) Either way, I believe it's wrong. God tells us to flee from sexual immorality, not inch as close to the line as we can possibly get. My opinion is, it's fine once you're married, but not before than, and even then it's between the couple.
     
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    its still sex...oral..anal..vaginal...still all sex
     
  6. Weasel7711

    Weasel7711 I'm in love with a bunnymedic!

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    I can offer my advice. Don't do it. Sexual intimacy is reserved for the bond of marriage. The feelings and emotions released when you perform sexual acts with each other, when not in a loving marriage, can do horrible things to your relationship. It will seem innocent at first, but the more you do it, the more farther away from God you may find yourself, and also farther away from your SO, emotionally. From experience, the two previous relationships I had where there was fooling around involved did not end well and I am giving my all to maintain purity with my fiance before our wedding.
    Honor God now and He will honor your sex life when you marry.
     
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    mezyel New Member

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    i still think its wrong even me and my guy had sex before. we are now fighting it it all started there so take it from me dont do it
     
  8. Pray and ask God what He thinks. This is one of those issues that's between you, your gf, and God.

    I could speak on it, and my opinion probably would not be popular. However, I'm no expert, and the same advice doesn't work for everyone. Only God knows what works best for you.
     
  9. LongLegs

    LongLegs Guest

    I think is great as long as both participate. Lots of guys like to get it, but don't seem to want to give it! :sick:

    Kathy :kiss:
     
  10. alphacheese

    alphacheese If God brings u to it, He will bring u through it

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    I’d like to propose a scenario: You are not married, but plan to do so some day. That means your future spouse is out there somewhere. They could be in school, at their job, volunteering, exercising, sleeping, or maybe they are sitting in a room alone with another individual that they find attractive. As you read this, that other person is trying to talk your future spouse into oral sex. If you could say something to them, what would it be. Would you say, “Go ahead honey, just don’t go all the way.” I think you’d feel pretty sick about what that other person is trying to do to your future husband or wife.

    My opinion is it’s the same as any premarital sex. It robs you of your innocence. It easily leads to much more sexual and adventurous encounters. Just think, from that first kiss… it was ok for a while, but soon you’d hold each other, you’d want to feel loved and be close. Soon more intimate kissing will follow. If that’s as far as it goes, some people might say that you’ve already gone too far and need to back off, but just think of how easily your actions would progress from oral sex.

    If a guy needs to place his genitals into the mouth of his gf to show her how much she means to him, then it shows exactly what she means to him (girls too)
     
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  11. That's his prerogative, and that's her prerogative for choosing to be with someone who has to "talk" someone else into oral sex. Why would she choose to be with a person like that? That's as much of a question as why he would try to push her past her boundaries, and if he's trying to talk her into it, then we can take a wild guess that she has already established boundaries against it.

    That's a truly bizarre statement. Nobody places their genitals in someone's mouth. It's the other way around, dude. And your statement makes it seem like consensual oral sex is degrading to the giver.
     
  12. alphacheese

    alphacheese If God brings u to it, He will bring u through it

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    I'm referring to premarital oral sex, which I believe to be very degrading to both parties involved. I know you view this very differently, however. But we all get our opinions.
     
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  13. Beautiful Fireball

    Beautiful Fireball Tomorrow is another day

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    How is pre-marital oral sex more degrading then oral sex within marriage? I don't understand why it would change.
     
  14. alphacheese

    alphacheese If God brings u to it, He will bring u through it

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    Because that's your opinion :p we all get our own
     
  15. Beautiful Fireball

    Beautiful Fireball Tomorrow is another day

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    No, oral sex being degrading before marriage is not just an opinion. You must have a reason for that, and if you don't mind sharing I would love to hear it. :)

    I am just trying to understand why you think it is degrading before marriage and not after. Not trying to debate or attack, I am genuinely curious.
     
  16. alphacheese

    alphacheese If God brings u to it, He will bring u through it

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    Well I think that oral sex, as is any sexual contact, is no appropriate before marriage. As within marriage I see nothing wrong with it, so long as it is not replacing sexual contact designed for procreation (need I get specific?) As Imperial Phantom said, it’s your prerogative. Within the bonds of marriage I dare say anything goes, so long as it’s within your Christian beliefs, which are yours and yours alone.

    So that’s why I say unacceptable before, and totally up to you after marriage.
     
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    I suggest you read 1 Timothy 5: 1-2. Although it depends on your beliefs whether you will accept this verse or not. Some say it doesnt apply to us because it was a letter to someone specific, but if that were the case most of the New Testament wouldnt apply to us. I believe that it is in the Bible because it was meant for all of us, not just Timothy, but I guess that decision is up to you.
     
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  18. Weasel7711

    Weasel7711 I'm in love with a bunnymedic!

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    Here's why I view it as wrong outside of marriage

    Some people think that you are only joined as one flesh when you are married to the person... however that argument hits a dead end when you get to this verse.




    I can conclude from this that sexual activity joins together the two that are participating in it.
    You can then make the argument that if you only have sex with that person and marry them eventually, its not sinning. OK, I can see that logic and I am willing to agree with that argument. But what happens if you end up breaking up? What if you move on and have sex with another person? You are joining yourself with another, who has possibly joined with others in the past, etc.



    The word used here for fornication is "Pornea" which is any kind of illicit sex, which includes sex outside of marriage. Ask any reputable Bible scholar.


    Sex is a beautiful thing and we can see that God has created it for our enjoyment. But he created it to be enjoyed with our spouses, as we see in Genesis. Sex is great and the only God honoring way it can be done is within marriage. Just read Song of Solomon. Sex is the most fulfilling when it is between two loving committed people who have bound themselves together in marriage and live to honor God.



    Now this is my interpretation. Hopefully the Holy Spirit will convict you as you read scripture as to what you are allowed to do, but I think scripture makes a pretty good argument against it.
     
  19. Briseis

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    I agree with what you are saying, but how you got to those conclusions is confusing. I didnt really understand your process. But this thread isnt for me, hopefully the OP is smarter.
     
  20. But your quote made it sound like it was degrading to the giver, specifically. I never want that attitude to be prevalent, because I don't think either party should feel degraded in the process of giving or receiving, but especially giving. Everybody is responsible for their own decisions.