@phydaux
Im sorry that i have made it seem like i am trolling. I can assure you that i am not. In fact, he HAS told his parents and he attends both mosque and church every sunday. His situation is very abnormal, in a sense that i have never seen someone like this. I guess i know where you all stand on the topic, and we can divert from it if you want. I wanted to know if these things would take away from a marriage....
Take away from a marriage? Maybe, maybe not.
Take away from a
Christian marriage? Yes, and without a doubt.
I have no idea how committed you are to your walk with Christ or how secular you are, nor how committed your boyfriend is to Allah or how secular he is. I have to assume that, if you're seeking out feedback on a Christian forum, then you are at least "somewhat" committed to Christ.
I
can tell you, in all honesty, that the more secular you both are then the less likely it is that these differences will matter to your marriage, because neither Christ nor Allah matter very much to either of you.
The
more committed you both are, or even only either one of you is, then the
more likely it will be that this will cause problems because it will be something that draws the two of you apart.
"If he LOVES ME then he will change" or
"If he LOVES ME than it won't matter" is a
lie. It is a pernicious lie that many young women tell themselves, and Hollywood tells them, and pop songs, and thousands young lives are ruined because of that misplaced belief every year.
My wife is a psychologist, and she calls the results of that lie co-dependency. I'm not a psychologist, I'm a Bible teacher. As it turns out the Bible has a name for it, too. The Bible calls it "Idolatry."
And again, I go back to all the young girls whose sole criteria in picking a boyfriend is how much that guy will P-off their parents.
Have a happy Thanksgiving tomorrow, Mona. At least tomorrow you won't have to worry about your boyfriend not eating pork.