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The passage and the context of it was an answer to the Corinthians (See 7:1 "But concerning what you wrote to me") about being able to leave if they were saved and the spouse was not.But to the rest I say, not the Lord, if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she consents to live with him, let him not leave her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified by the husband; else, then, your children are unclean, but now they are holy. But if the unbelieving one separates, let them be separated; the brother or the sister is not in bondage in such matters; but God has called us in peace. For what do you know, wife, whether you will save the husband? Or what do you know, husband, whether you will save the wife?
(1Co 7:12-16)
The wording there clearly shows that if she is 'pleased' then let him not put her away.But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
(1Co 7:12-13)
It doesnt not simply state 'let him not put her away' but adds the condition of being 'pleased' to his not putting her away."if"
G1487
ei i
a primary particle of conditionality;
if, whether, that, etc.:--forasmuch as, if, that, (al-)though, whether. Often
used in connection or composition with other particles, especially as in
G1489, G1490, G1499, G1508, G1509, G1512, G1513, G1536, G1537. See
also G1437.
the word clearly shows a mutually pleasant experience.G4909
1) to be pleased together with, to approve together (with others)
2) to be pleased at the same time with, consent, agree to
2a) to applaud
"leave him" there is the same as 'put away' in the previous verse.And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
(1Co 7:13)
The context of 'divorce' as a whole in scripture is either the casting out of a spouse or the leaving of a marriage with the intent of 'putting away' that marriage (altho there are some who try to pretend the two are not the same intent)G863
aphie?mi
Thayer Definition:
1) to send away
1a) to bid going away or depart
1a1) of a husband divorcing his wife
1b) to send forth, yield up, to expire
1c) to let go, let alone, let be
1c1) to disregard
1c2) to leave, not to discuss now, (a topic)
1c2a) of teachers, writers and speakers
1c3) to omit, neglect
1d) to let go, give up a debt, forgive, to remit
1e) to give up, keep no longer
2) to permit, allow, not to hinder, to give up a thing to a person
3) to leave, go way from one
3a) in order to go to another place
3b) to depart from any one
3c) to depart from one and leave him to himself so that all mutual claims are abandoned
3d) to desert wrongfully
3e) to go away leaving something behind
3f) to leave one by not taking him as a companion
3g) to leave on dying, leave behind one
3h) to leave so that what is left may remain, leave remaining
3i) abandon, leave destitute
I think the greek makes it very clear that in a situation where a believer is married to an unbeliever who is abusing them that the condition above that Paul presents does give 'grounds' for divorcing the spouse (leaving the marriage)G22
agamos
Thayer Definition:
1) unmarried, unwedded, single
Is it grounds for divorce?
I think the greek makes it very clear that in a situation where a believer is married to an unbeliever who is abusing them that the condition above that Paul presents does give 'grounds' for divorcing the spouse
no. one has to go to God and seek His reasons for staying in the marriage. we as believers will be/are persecuted for our faith in Jesus, are we free to leave the faith because of that abuse? no.
one shows love by endurance and how will the unbelieving sopoiuse be one if that love is removed?
the Bible tells us to do good to those who do evil , that is the course i would recommend spouses follow when abused. ask God how to do it, for the strength and endurance needed so one will win their husband/wife to Christ.
this is so wrong and says paul contradicts Jesus.
i am involved in a discussion on another thread withthis poster so this is all i will say here.
Frankly YOUR view is the one that makes Paul contradict Jesus.this is so wrong and says paul contradicts Jesus.
i am involved in a discussion on another thread withthis poster so this is all i will say here.
"Let not man Put Asunder" vs "let the unbeliever depart"
Jesus versus Paul ?
By WmTipton
Assertions/Conclusions of this Article
Here we will show that not only can one put asunder a marriage (that its possible), but Paul even gives instruction to do just that in certain cases. These seemingly different statements ("Let not man Put Asunder" vs "let the unbeliever depart")are actually about the same exact thing...putting asunder/Chorizo...as proven very conclusively by the greek.
Supporting Evidence
1.0
There is an errant teaching out there that claims that when Jesus said 'let not man put asunder' regarding marriage, that He 'meant' man CANNOT put asunder.
What we will show briefly in this article that there IS an occurance in scripture where it is shown absolutely that man can indeed 'put asunder' what God has joined together.L: “When God joins two together, they are now ONE. What GOD joins, man CANNOT separate”
See 'put asunder' in each of these passages?
Bear in mind that, in the context these are in, Jesus and the pharisees are discussing putting away of a wife there in BOTH of those passages. The context of 'put asunder' is putting away of a marriage/wife, nothing less.So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate(G5563-CHORIZO)."
(Mat 19:6 EMTV)
(Mar 10:9) 'and the two shall become one flesh'; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has united together, let not man separate(G5563-CHORIZO)."
(Mar 10:8-9 EMTV)
Jesus is CLEARLY discussing not putting asunder of this 'one flesh' that is being spoken of there.
The word is (G5563)chorizo and it only appears a few times in scripture.
That word 'put asunder' is the EXACT same word for "depart" in 1 cor 7:11G5563
χωρίζω
chōrizō
Thayer Definition:
1) to separate, divide, part, put asunder, to separate one’s self from, to depart
1a) to leave a husband or wife
1a) of divorce
1b) to depart, go away
...in other words, Paul has just said this woman has done the exact thing that some claim that Jesus said men CANNOT do....'put asunder'.(1Co 7:11) But and if she depart(G5563), let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
Notice Paul makes no claim that she 'cannot' put asunder (depart), but clearly presents that IF she DOES do so, then this is the situation....she is to remain "agamos" (literally "UNmarried").
*IF* putting asunder were IMPOSSIBLE for man to do...then why doesnt Paul REstate (*IF* that were Jesus actual meaning) this fact ?
WHY does he simply say *IF* she puts asunder then ...... ?
*IF* no man can put asunder, then Paul makes absolutely no sense here whatsoever. He should have simply stated that it was impossible to do so.
The word in question pretty much just means to "place room between", "depart" or to "separate"...its not some magical phrase that Jesus used to make a marriage bond unbreakable...
What I find striking is that Paul could have used a number of other choices in demonstrating that this woman had left her husband...but chose the one word that was used in rendering Jesus' words about putting asunder.
Was it coincedence or intentional? Was Paul literally reaching out and using the one word that would make it clear that putting asunder IS indeed possible?
We wont know until that day, for sure...but we do know now that regardless of what some say, that Paul has shown that man CAN 'put asunder'....that is factual.
Certainly a call to reconcile is made to the believers...but this doesnt negate what is clearly presented in Gods word....man CAN indeed put asunder (separate) by Pauls own words.
2.0
Now that its been established that man can indeed ‘put asunder’ (chorizo) a marriage, we move on to something even more astounding. Clear instruction for the believer to actually allow the unbelieving spouse to ‘put asunder’ the marriage.
Heres a very remarkable passage that blows L’s statement above, that man CANNOT separate right out of the water. And not only that, it is our very own Paul giving INSTRUCTION for this believer to let it be so.
Remember “chorizo”G5563 our word from above ? Can you guess what greek word ‘depart’ there is rendered from ?1Co 7:15 KJV But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
You got it...the very same ‘chorizo’ (put asunder from Jesus’ statement ‘let not man put asunder” is right there in Paul own instruction to let the unbeliever do.
So we not only see absolute proof that man CAN put asunder a marriage, but we now have Paul even telling the believer to let the unbeliever do so !
This hardly sounds like a ‘cannot’ situation to me.
Now, of course this is not our Lords desire for marriage that it would ever have to be ended, but clearly He had enought forsight to show Paul to let the believer do EXACTLY what He Himself had told man not to do.
Why?
Because Jesus knows that no matter what we do as believers, there will always be unbelieving spouses who will not honor the covenant of marriage.
3.0
As we can see here in this passage, the believing wife who has departed (chorizo) her believing husband is considered 'agamos'.....'unmarried'.
Logically carrying this 'agamos' over to this passage where this unbeliever also has departed the marriage its quite easy to conclude that this person would also be deemed as 'agamos' (unmarried)(1Co 7:10 KJV) And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart(chorizo)from her husband:
(1Co 7:11 KJV) But and if she depart(chorizo), let her remain unmarried(agamos), or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
in the former case where both are believers there is commandment to remain UNmarried or reconcile.(1Co 7:15 KJV) But if the unbelieving depart(chorizo), , let him depart(chorizo), . A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
In the latter case tho, where one is unequally yoked, Paul clearly states that he is speaking, not the Lord, in this matter.
To these Paul gives concession not given to those who are equally yoked with another believer.
"BUT to the REST"....to these who are unequally yoked, Paul says quite plainly that they are not in bondage to that union where it has been put asunder.
4.0
Another point of interest is in verse 7:11 where it says 'let her remain unmarried or reconcile to her husband" the actual greek means 'let her remain unmarried or to the man let her be being conciliated"
It is often pushed that the use of 'her husband' there means that she is still married to the man, but that is not proven from the actual Greek at all. The greek word for 'man' is also used for 'husband'.
Paul used 'agamos' to describe this woman for a reason.
Ive seen some fallacies that actually promote the idea that a woman should stay and even die at the hands of her brute....and these hellspawned lies actually claim she is living 'gods will' for her life in doing so....A woman having the stuffing beat out of her is not "for Jesus" it's pointless.
That's dangerous way to look at violence in the home as well...
There is no such thing as a 'legal separation' in Gods word.Separation yes. Divorce no.
A woman having the stuffing beat out of her is not "for Jesus" it's pointless.
That's dangerous way to look at violence in the home as well...
The practical effect of that passage is equal to my view though.There is no such thing as a 'legal separation' in Gods word.
The woman in 1 Cor 7:10-11 who left her marriage is 'unmarried' according to Paul.
Actually, one can divorce ANY old reason they want to....even sinful reasons. So it isnt a matter of what one 'CAN' or cannot do.The practical effect of that passage is equal to my view though.
If you have to leave to keep from being beaten to death or whatever, you still can't "remarry" hence separation not divorce.
Is it grounds for divorce?
The practical effect of that passage is equal to my view though.
If you have to leave to keep from being beaten to death or whatever, you still can't "remarry" hence separation not divorce.
no. one has to go to God and seek His reasons for staying in the marriage. we as believers will be/are persecuted for our faith in Jesus, are we free to leave the faith because of that abuse? no.
one shows love by endurance and how will the unbelieving sopoiuse be one if that love is removed?
the Bible tells us to do good to those who do evil , that is the course i would recommend spouses follow when abused. ask God how to do it, for the strength and endurance needed so one will win their husband/wife to Christ.
this is so wrong and says paul contradicts Jesus.
i am involved in a discussion on another thread withthis poster so this is all i will say here.
you are thinking with your own understanding not God's. how would the south american iindians have learned of the Gspel if elliot and his friends took this view? they were killed as they stepped off the plane andnever preached the gospel yet, that tribe converted later n after God raised up others to replace them.
many of the converts were the very indians who killed elliot and friends.
your question also only addressed if it was grounds for divorce--it is NOT. adultery is the only avenue one can take and that does not mean the abused spouse can go out and committ adultery to get a divorce.
as for staying in the relationship that is up for God to decide not the person or her friends. when one is the servant of GOd they listen to His voice as they are His servants and the servant rarely knows the masters reasons.
it may not seem fair or right, but God knows what He is doing.