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I Spit On Perfection
- May 16, 2006
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Religious beliefs are not always based on warm and fuzzy feelings. I came to my faith through critical thought as an adult. I was baptized as a child of course, but I was not raised in anything but a nominally religious home.
But even then, feelings have their place, and they are just as valid a way to experience reality.
Experiencing reality requires both thought and sentiment, balanced as much as possible.
That's OK but don't neglect holistic thinking also. Things are more than the sum of their parts.
A great intellect should always serve a great good. That's one way to keep it from becoming a curse
Holistic thinking is what I'm using here in noting an interconnectedness. You're advocating more reductionistic thought, considering the individuals apart from the whole, which is valid depending on circumstance. Taking Christians as individuals is fair-minded and logical. But considering Christianity as a whole in terms of the interrelated teachings, etc, is a part of the consideration of it as false or true.
In my experience there are quite a few Aspies openly contemptuous of religious beliefs, and insensitive to what they mean to other people. A little compassion goes a long ways there, since the person with Asperger's often has trouble understanding the social implications of contempt.
For the OP, truly it is a cross to bear and something to pray to God about, and have faith that he will not let you bear more than you can handle. Divorce should be the last option, one only used if you find yourself attacked emotionally and spiritually and unable to cope. Sometimes people that deride Christian do so from a place of insecurity about their own beliefs- the sincerity in something they themselves cannot verify offends them.
You aren't wrong in that regard, but I'm not saying that's right. Compassion isn't something absolutely foreign to Aspies and you can nonetheless disagree without being callous. Golden rule makes logical sense, even if you don't necessarily have the capacity to purely empathize.
Mere sincerity is hollow and childish: I've already pointed this out. I can believe ridiculous things and persist in it despite objections, but that isn't admirable or to be encouraged, because it's logically unsound and intellectually lazy.
Perhaps the husband feels trapped moreso than the wife, since he was drawn into the relationship and bond by sentiment instead of looking at it rationally, perhaps pressured by social conformity to get married because it was "true love". Christians tend to regard shacking up and such as sinful, when it's by far one of the better ways to determine compatibility for future marriage. It's as if preachers don't even contribute their thoughts to couples planning to get married: pray and think hard about such a thing, because it's meant to be almost impregnable in terms of the strength.
If they had thought about this beforehand, perhaps this problem wouldn't have happened. It sounds cruel of me, but this is something they have to acknowledge is more their fault than society's.
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