It's not a Godly marriage. You are not married to a Godly man. You are called, however, to be a Godly wife regardless. You respect his position as the head/leader of the family. You don't have to feel respect for him, just act respectfully. If you don't want to, which I totally understand, then don't expect anything to get better. That's all I'm saying. You have a choice. You know what God expects of you in a marriage. If you don't want to do that, then get a divorce. Your heart is already hard.
(shrugs) sounds like spiritual pixie dust to me.
She has done the respecting and submitting thing, and it didn't get any better - sounds like it got worse. Yet, tell her to submit more otherwise she has a hard heart. Wow.
SLW - get counseling for yourself. Work on yourself. Nothing will get better if you feel you are being a doormat, or feel you are being treated as one. You have been married to someone with a hard heart, and confusion, hurt - and all the rest of it tends to follow that reality.
Sadly, for whatever reason he sounds very entitled. When you bow to much to an entitled person it turns into enabling them. Enabling doesn't help anything. Not him - not you - nobody.
He agreed to move, and now isn't happy and blames you for it. That's rather childish, and shows a person that doesn't know what to do with their feelings....so they project them onto others. Sounds to me like you have very relevant reasons NOT to trust him, and that's a hard place to be.
Yes, you can indeed respect him as a human being. I feel you should as well, but you also need to find ways of respecting yourself...and once you do that the rest will fall into place. Whether you stay or leave we are asked to still respect them as a human being, or as some people coin it...taking the high road. It's tempting to fall into the pit, and be ugly back ,etc. It's our human side.
Quite frankly, for your own mental health a separation maybe something to consider if you feel led to do so. It won't be easy, nice or pleasant. It will give you some breathing room to think about how to move forward. If he leaves? The bible tells us to allow the unbeliever to do so.
Keep in mind entitled people tend to give you ultimatums, and the decision must be made instantly. Don't bow to that, and it won't be easy NOT too. Sounds like your already groomed to bow under that type of pressure. If he feels he needs to stew because he didn't get his way (your instant giving in to his ultimatum) - let him stew. Allow him to live with his feelings, and his circumstance...because he needs too. If he runs instead? Sadly, you may need to face the fact he may not be capable of facing feelings - or much of anything of substance in his life.
A separation also may wake him up to the fact that more commitment on his part is needed. He may decide its worth it to him, or as I said above he may not. You may also find yourself in the position of looking at things from a different angle, and decide for yourself this is something you can live with.
