Hi everyone! I have a question/comment, geared toward the Husbands, but I definitely want both gender's thoughts.
My husband has always had trouble hugging other women and I didn't understand why. This could be my friends, or our couple friends, most of whom are "huggy" type people. Recently, he told me it's because it proves to be a temptation and he doesn't want to be on that level of comfort with any woman except for me. It's too much of a temptation for him. He said he is very committed to me and he struggles with the area of lust, which a lot of men struggle with especially. NOTE: He DOES hug me and is very affectionate with me, so that is NOT a problem.
So sometimes a woman-friend will lean in for a hug and he tells them that he doesn't really hug people. This usually comes off as awkward or comes off as rude. That's what I'm worried about - I don't want him to appear rude to other people, especially if their husband doesn't have a problem hugging me. Do you know what I mean?
So all in all, I think I understand where he is coming from, with the temptation. But I'm just worried about those rude-awkward interactions that are GOING to happen (and have happened before) as a result. Does anyone else relate to this?
Thanks.
~Jesus Girl~
My husband has always had trouble hugging other women and I didn't understand why. This could be my friends, or our couple friends, most of whom are "huggy" type people. Recently, he told me it's because it proves to be a temptation and he doesn't want to be on that level of comfort with any woman except for me. It's too much of a temptation for him. He said he is very committed to me and he struggles with the area of lust, which a lot of men struggle with especially. NOTE: He DOES hug me and is very affectionate with me, so that is NOT a problem.
So sometimes a woman-friend will lean in for a hug and he tells them that he doesn't really hug people. This usually comes off as awkward or comes off as rude. That's what I'm worried about - I don't want him to appear rude to other people, especially if their husband doesn't have a problem hugging me. Do you know what I mean?
So all in all, I think I understand where he is coming from, with the temptation. But I'm just worried about those rude-awkward interactions that are GOING to happen (and have happened before) as a result. Does anyone else relate to this?
Thanks.
~Jesus Girl~