I am in my mid-40's and in my second marriage. I have three children from my first marriage. My second husband and I have been together for 4-1/2 years; married 2-1/2 yrs. My husband is a fairly new Christian. I have been raised in church all my life and have always been very involved in serving within the Church. I am by no means a bible scholar, but I feel I know the scriptures fairly well. Our marriage has always been very, very good. We would rarely argue and if any cross words were spoken by either of us, we were quick to apologize. My husband is very loving, affectionate, caring, kindhearted. He's the kind of man I've always dreamed of and I value him, adore him, and love him very much. My kids also adore him. Even though they have a Father, my husband is more of a Father figure to them and they have a lot of respect for him.
So, here's the issue. When Gay Marriage passed, all hell has broken loose in my home. My husband, no knowing scripture well, is more liberal in his thinking where I choose to live my life, as best as I can, according to scripture. Previous to all the hub-bub about gay marriage, it's not something I talked about regularly with my children. We live in the midwest bible-belt and honestly we don't see much lgbt activity. But now that the law has passed, I felt that my children may indeed see more of this so I wanted to reiterate with them what GOD says about homosexuality. I made it clear to them that we are not to judge homosexuals or treat them any differently and that we are to be a "light" to them and pray for them. I have only had two discussions recently with my kids about this issue. I should point out that my son is 17 and my daughter is 11. My oldest is out of the house. I believe as a Christian Parent, it is my God-given responsibility to teach my children what God says about ALL issues; not just homosexuality. However, my husband has limited knowledge of the bible and he feels that I am to share with my children all aspects of homosexuality and let THEM choose what they believe is right; even for my 11 year old. He says I am causing them to "hate" because I tell them that God says it's wrong. He brought up the scripture where Jesus tells us to obey Man's laws and since it's a Law now, that means it's ok. I told him that God's laws are above man's laws when it comes to morality. Abortion is "legal" but as a child of God, we are not to have abortions. According to what he's saying, if pedophilia or polygamy becomes legal, that makes it ok??? I think not. I have asked my husband to not give his "opinion" on these matters to my children UNLESS it lines up with the bible. He thinks I'm being ridiculous. He told my oldest son last week that he believes the bible is full of errors and not reliable due to all the various translations.
My husband doesn't feel homosexuality is a big deal. He says he knows God says it's wrong, but because God is love, we are to love. And I agree with that. But we are to be loving towards them to show them GOD'S LOVE so that God can work through us to bring them to Christ. Everyone has a free will. God made us that way, starting back with Adam and Eve. And I believe we have to crucify our flesh, walk in the spirit, and choose the ways that God wants for us.
But I want the arguing to stop. We've NEVER experienced this kind of turmoil in our relationship and it's breaking my heart.
Can anyone on here offer some suggestions? I'm not trying to hate on anybody. I do try to love everyone. I have friends who are gay and bi-sexual and they are still my friends. But I wouldn't attend a wedding to support a gay marriage and I wouldn't shy away from telling them that their lifestyle is morally wrong, according to the bible.
So, here's the issue. When Gay Marriage passed, all hell has broken loose in my home. My husband, no knowing scripture well, is more liberal in his thinking where I choose to live my life, as best as I can, according to scripture. Previous to all the hub-bub about gay marriage, it's not something I talked about regularly with my children. We live in the midwest bible-belt and honestly we don't see much lgbt activity. But now that the law has passed, I felt that my children may indeed see more of this so I wanted to reiterate with them what GOD says about homosexuality. I made it clear to them that we are not to judge homosexuals or treat them any differently and that we are to be a "light" to them and pray for them. I have only had two discussions recently with my kids about this issue. I should point out that my son is 17 and my daughter is 11. My oldest is out of the house. I believe as a Christian Parent, it is my God-given responsibility to teach my children what God says about ALL issues; not just homosexuality. However, my husband has limited knowledge of the bible and he feels that I am to share with my children all aspects of homosexuality and let THEM choose what they believe is right; even for my 11 year old. He says I am causing them to "hate" because I tell them that God says it's wrong. He brought up the scripture where Jesus tells us to obey Man's laws and since it's a Law now, that means it's ok. I told him that God's laws are above man's laws when it comes to morality. Abortion is "legal" but as a child of God, we are not to have abortions. According to what he's saying, if pedophilia or polygamy becomes legal, that makes it ok??? I think not. I have asked my husband to not give his "opinion" on these matters to my children UNLESS it lines up with the bible. He thinks I'm being ridiculous. He told my oldest son last week that he believes the bible is full of errors and not reliable due to all the various translations.
My husband doesn't feel homosexuality is a big deal. He says he knows God says it's wrong, but because God is love, we are to love. And I agree with that. But we are to be loving towards them to show them GOD'S LOVE so that God can work through us to bring them to Christ. Everyone has a free will. God made us that way, starting back with Adam and Eve. And I believe we have to crucify our flesh, walk in the spirit, and choose the ways that God wants for us.
But I want the arguing to stop. We've NEVER experienced this kind of turmoil in our relationship and it's breaking my heart.
Can anyone on here offer some suggestions? I'm not trying to hate on anybody. I do try to love everyone. I have friends who are gay and bi-sexual and they are still my friends. But I wouldn't attend a wedding to support a gay marriage and I wouldn't shy away from telling them that their lifestyle is morally wrong, according to the bible.