So my husband and I have been married for almost two years ago, we've had two babies in a very short amount of time almost 2 and a newborn. i was extremely pregnant with the first when we got married, and had only lived together for a few months when i got pregnant. there is a very brief background of the relationship. We have always gotten along pretty well. we are both pretty quite easy going people. So we haven't fought much over the span of are relationship.
my husband is a great guy, he goes to work everyday in construction to provide for our family, and comes home to us every night. however during my second pregnancy both of my brothers moved to town and it was a constant heavy drinking at my house, which i always hated. one thing led to another and the drinking got out of control and a fight broke out and my husband broke his hand sending him into a deep depression, along with taking several norcos (he's a recovered drug addict), and basically was absent from me and his family emotionally.
I didn't know what was going on, besides the obvious. I then discovered that he was talking to one of his long time friends (who is a girl) day in and day out. When I confronted him about what was going on between him and his friend, he said that he was confiding all of his issues in her, while i was left in the dark. this is also what has started the down hill spiral of our relationship. all we ever do is argue, fight, and say hurtful things to each other. now i have become overbearing and over cautious of this friend of his, as they go out almost every week to concerts. he swears up and down that nothing would ever happen but he is still sneaking around to talk to her everyday, and he won't talk to her in front of me, because "i will flip out"
I cannot get past this. he says that they're just friends which i can believe. but when i ask what they have to talk about everyday its vague at best, just shooting the breeze. whenever i try to talk about my feelings so that i can move on and continue to be friends with this girl it just turns into an argument which makes my husband even more resentful, and continue to do what he wants.
we throw out the word divorce all the time now, and neither one of us are understanding the other. I'm sorry I'm rambling on, i just need advice, help, anything! Thanks
my husband is a great guy, he goes to work everyday in construction to provide for our family, and comes home to us every night. however during my second pregnancy both of my brothers moved to town and it was a constant heavy drinking at my house, which i always hated. one thing led to another and the drinking got out of control and a fight broke out and my husband broke his hand sending him into a deep depression, along with taking several norcos (he's a recovered drug addict), and basically was absent from me and his family emotionally.
I didn't know what was going on, besides the obvious. I then discovered that he was talking to one of his long time friends (who is a girl) day in and day out. When I confronted him about what was going on between him and his friend, he said that he was confiding all of his issues in her, while i was left in the dark. this is also what has started the down hill spiral of our relationship. all we ever do is argue, fight, and say hurtful things to each other. now i have become overbearing and over cautious of this friend of his, as they go out almost every week to concerts. he swears up and down that nothing would ever happen but he is still sneaking around to talk to her everyday, and he won't talk to her in front of me, because "i will flip out"
I cannot get past this. he says that they're just friends which i can believe. but when i ask what they have to talk about everyday its vague at best, just shooting the breeze. whenever i try to talk about my feelings so that i can move on and continue to be friends with this girl it just turns into an argument which makes my husband even more resentful, and continue to do what he wants.
we throw out the word divorce all the time now, and neither one of us are understanding the other. I'm sorry I'm rambling on, i just need advice, help, anything! Thanks