I got married almost exactly a year ago to a wonderful man. His father is great and has always been nice to me, as well as one of his sisters. Unfortunately, I have not had very good luck with his mom and other sister and I need some advice on how to be a Godly woman regarding this situation.
One of his sisters was nice to me prior to us getting engaged. Suddenly, after I asked her to be my bridesmaid, she began being a little rude and disrespectful, even talking behind my back. There was nothing I did. I remember her wanting things a certain way for the wedding and when I said no, she was upset. (As a side note, I was a very chill bride, no bridezilla.)
After getting married I continued to reach out to this sister who has not had a job in almost two years and has suffered from depression (as have myself). She always told me how she was doing and about how hard her life was, but hardly ever asking about me. When I would volunteer to her that I was struggling with also not having a job or even getting interviews, she would say: “I’m sorry to hear that. I’ll pray for you.” and then I wouldn’t really hear back until I had to reach out to her again about her life.
I have given her lots of advice and really tried being there for her but she does not reach out to me. I am so hurt because I feel like I was totally used by her and I feel she is so selfish. I have recently texted her saying “Hey, just checking in. Sending positivity and love your way.” and I got nothing from her. I have also written her on FB one time asking if she had an issue with me and she said that she was sorry and that she had been busy helping her friends with their issues.
I am so angry at how much she has totally ignored me or not reached out, even with both of us in the same situation (both struggling and both needing help), regardless of how much I’ve tried being there for her. I have expressed my anger about her to my mother and husband and I have apologized to God about this.
I don’t know what to do. I am so upset that I honestly want to delete her from Facebook. I don’t see how you can write someone off that is family by ignoring them and their pain. I am angry and hurt by her and I don’t know how to go about this. As mentioned above I asked her why she never reaches out to me, but only to talk about herself. Now she doesn’t reach out to me at all, and has recently ignored my text.
She currently is living with her parents and they are spending 4 grand a month on her. She goes to Disneyland, Hockey games, etc with their money, yet she can’t lend me a helping ear because she is too busy with her friends and her issues?
What do you do when you feel disrespected by someone? Also, I feel I have lost a ton of friends after getting married (even Christian) and the struggle is real. I am lonely. I don’t have a job, and I feel I am not cared about. I am so confused about this all because I feel I have been there for so many people, with an open, authentic heart and yet it’s not being reciprocated. Is God possibly hardening peoples hearts towards me? I have asked God if there is anything sins I have needed confessing, and I have confessed, but this lack of friends thing is getting out of hand and I don’t know what to do.
One of his sisters was nice to me prior to us getting engaged. Suddenly, after I asked her to be my bridesmaid, she began being a little rude and disrespectful, even talking behind my back. There was nothing I did. I remember her wanting things a certain way for the wedding and when I said no, she was upset. (As a side note, I was a very chill bride, no bridezilla.)
After getting married I continued to reach out to this sister who has not had a job in almost two years and has suffered from depression (as have myself). She always told me how she was doing and about how hard her life was, but hardly ever asking about me. When I would volunteer to her that I was struggling with also not having a job or even getting interviews, she would say: “I’m sorry to hear that. I’ll pray for you.” and then I wouldn’t really hear back until I had to reach out to her again about her life.
I have given her lots of advice and really tried being there for her but she does not reach out to me. I am so hurt because I feel like I was totally used by her and I feel she is so selfish. I have recently texted her saying “Hey, just checking in. Sending positivity and love your way.” and I got nothing from her. I have also written her on FB one time asking if she had an issue with me and she said that she was sorry and that she had been busy helping her friends with their issues.
I am so angry at how much she has totally ignored me or not reached out, even with both of us in the same situation (both struggling and both needing help), regardless of how much I’ve tried being there for her. I have expressed my anger about her to my mother and husband and I have apologized to God about this.
I don’t know what to do. I am so upset that I honestly want to delete her from Facebook. I don’t see how you can write someone off that is family by ignoring them and their pain. I am angry and hurt by her and I don’t know how to go about this. As mentioned above I asked her why she never reaches out to me, but only to talk about herself. Now she doesn’t reach out to me at all, and has recently ignored my text.
She currently is living with her parents and they are spending 4 grand a month on her. She goes to Disneyland, Hockey games, etc with their money, yet she can’t lend me a helping ear because she is too busy with her friends and her issues?
What do you do when you feel disrespected by someone? Also, I feel I have lost a ton of friends after getting married (even Christian) and the struggle is real. I am lonely. I don’t have a job, and I feel I am not cared about. I am so confused about this all because I feel I have been there for so many people, with an open, authentic heart and yet it’s not being reciprocated. Is God possibly hardening peoples hearts towards me? I have asked God if there is anything sins I have needed confessing, and I have confessed, but this lack of friends thing is getting out of hand and I don’t know what to do.