I recently heard more about this (Carl Jung, I believe, is the one who coined the phrase) and it just came up in another thread how healing is "hard work" and painful. But.....I can't help but think of the alternative as being worse.
I think what's even more reason to go through the pain of therapy or generally being present with our emotions during trying times of loss is what happens when we come out on the other side. I do believe that Richard Rohr is right---what happens is that we are able to know God and others more from the "inside" instead of just from the "outside" (in a superficial way).
This may articulate my thoughts better:
I think what's even more reason to go through the pain of therapy or generally being present with our emotions during trying times of loss is what happens when we come out on the other side. I do believe that Richard Rohr is right---what happens is that we are able to know God and others more from the "inside" instead of just from the "outside" (in a superficial way).
This may articulate my thoughts better:
Suffering is the necessary deep feeling of the human situation. If we don’t feel pain, suffering, human failure, and weakness, we stand antiseptically apart from it, and remain numb and small. We can’t understand such things by thinking about them. The superficiality of much of our world is that it tries to buy its way out of the ordinary limits and pain of being human. Carl Jung called it “necessary suffering,” and I think he was right.
Jesus did not numb himself or withhold himself from human pain, as we see even in his refusal of the numbing wine on the cross (Matthew 27:34). Some forms of suffering are necessary so that we knowthe human dilemma, so that we can even name our shadow self and confront it.
Brothers and sisters, the irony is not that God should feel so fiercely; it’s that his creatures feel so feebly. If there is nothing in your life to cry about, if there is nothing in your life to yell about, you must be out of touch. We must all feel and know the immense pain of this global humanity. Then we are no longer isolated, but a true member of the universal Body of Christ. Then we know God not from the outside but from the inside!
~Adapted from Richard Rohr, Radical Grace: Daily Meditations