Sometimes people change after they marry. They treat dates and relationships one way, but they get married and they become someone else.
How do you think you would change if you married?
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People are bound to change when they get married and in many ways they
should change. What mitigates this (or neutralizes it) is being in the relationship for a long time before getting married. Marrying someone when you've known them less than two years is just plain
dumb.
It's a long story, but my ex-wife always told me that she thought I changed the day after our wedding. I always felt like I was being myself in the moments that described, but whatever. If anything, I think I
wasn't being myself prior to that, which is more likely to happen when the grand total of a relationship's length (prior to marriage) is only nine months.
There were ways my ex-changed to, and also ways my ex
should've changed but didn't. She focused more on the external appearance of change in that she started wearing different clothes, wearing her hair differently, and even driving a different car so that somehow she visually transitioned from "young single adult" to "married adult". The ways she
should've changed are she should've recognized us as our own nuclear family, but I don't believe she ever emotionally or psychologically left her parents home. At every critical juncture, when it should've been she and I making decisions together, or her coming to me for advice/insight/a decision, she went to her family instead.
Ladies, when you get married do your husband a favor and don't keep going to your daddy for everything. Your husband assumes that role. If he's a total deadbeat then I get it, otherwise don't insult your husband by deferring to your dad's judgment or advice or input on a subject, and don't always go to him to fix everything (whether it's a bad day at work or a faulty spark plug in your car).
/gets down off soapbox.
I definitely think I would become selfless to an unhealthy point. I'd get to the point where I stop caring about myself and only care for my husband and my family. I love hard, so finding a balance is a great challenge for me.
Wait... did you just brag on yourself in the form of a complaint? ಠಿ_ಠ