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Jonny42
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If you're ashamed of lusting after women and your desire to pleasure them then you're only going to make the problem worse like throwing gasoline on a fire. This will actually lead to more inappropriate content viewing and more skewed and warped sexual expectations. Similarly, praying for a woman and hoping she becomes a Christian serves to cultivate a superiority complex, forget that garbage. Such tactics are often used to protect a fragile ego anyways. If that's the case, the root cause of your problem may be an unchallenged and soft ego. The cure is to do things that scare the crap out of you, specifically social things.
Just accept and embrace that you want to procreate and spread your genetic material with healthy and attractive women. Let that desire flow through you like riding a wave. Allow your heart to beat faster (norepinephrine, serotonin), allow yourself to experience an erection (testosterone), allow yourself feel any warm fuzziness (oxytocin), just don't let the wave get lodged within you such that you start fantasizing about her. Learn to ride the wave but not hang onto the wave. Get some exercise, increase your testosterone levels naturally, then do something socially challenging as I mentioned previously. If your ego is resilient then you won't be tempted to think things like, "I must have her!"
I believe when you gaze at a woman with sexual desire (and let's be honest, if she catches your eye even for a microsecond that's sexual desire), and do so in honesty, transparency, and confidence, you feed your own masculinity and feed her femininity. I love to stare and smile at a gorgeous babe who walks by. It's the reason I take mass transit now and don't drive anymore. Not to mention the exercise helps boost my testosterone levels.
I think I am at the pinnacle of my mental, physical, and sexual health. Ironically, while I was attending Christian college and allowing myself to be indoctrinated with anecdotal assertions on human sexuality buttressed with cherry-picked bible verses I was at the low-point in my life. Therefore I invite criticism of my views backed with not only scripture but also with scientific studies.
One more thing...
When a man chooses to be selfish and frame a woman he likes in a shallow and superficial light (i.e. objectify her), that's when it becomes a toxic and poisonous thing to himself and to his loved-ones. When he insists on creating a false reality born entirely within his own mind about her, that's when it becomes a toxic and poisonous thing.
Just accept and embrace that you want to procreate and spread your genetic material with healthy and attractive women. Let that desire flow through you like riding a wave. Allow your heart to beat faster (norepinephrine, serotonin), allow yourself to experience an erection (testosterone), allow yourself feel any warm fuzziness (oxytocin), just don't let the wave get lodged within you such that you start fantasizing about her. Learn to ride the wave but not hang onto the wave. Get some exercise, increase your testosterone levels naturally, then do something socially challenging as I mentioned previously. If your ego is resilient then you won't be tempted to think things like, "I must have her!"
I believe when you gaze at a woman with sexual desire (and let's be honest, if she catches your eye even for a microsecond that's sexual desire), and do so in honesty, transparency, and confidence, you feed your own masculinity and feed her femininity. I love to stare and smile at a gorgeous babe who walks by. It's the reason I take mass transit now and don't drive anymore. Not to mention the exercise helps boost my testosterone levels.
I think I am at the pinnacle of my mental, physical, and sexual health. Ironically, while I was attending Christian college and allowing myself to be indoctrinated with anecdotal assertions on human sexuality buttressed with cherry-picked bible verses I was at the low-point in my life. Therefore I invite criticism of my views backed with not only scripture but also with scientific studies.
One more thing...
When a man chooses to be selfish and frame a woman he likes in a shallow and superficial light (i.e. objectify her), that's when it becomes a toxic and poisonous thing to himself and to his loved-ones. When he insists on creating a false reality born entirely within his own mind about her, that's when it becomes a toxic and poisonous thing.
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