Twisted sketch,
I disagree with your thought that a person is bonded to their sexual partners "for life". A bond does occur, but does God release us from guilt, make us free? Or do nonvirg's have to pay a heavy penance of guilt for the rest of their lives?!
I believe that God forgives and restores. He rarely gives us amnesia about past partners, but the memory of the past has absolutely no power over the present, unless someone, either the nonvirg or the virg, gives it more power thant it deserves.
God usually doesn't protect us from the consequences such as diseases, having a child, or choosing to abort, etc. However, I imply from "for life" is that a nonvirg must pay penance for years, feeling of guilty or worthless, for having sex. Is my Lord not risen or not? He releases from guilt if we repent.
I personally wouldn't care if my husband had slept with 0, 5, or fifty women, as long as they stay in his past, i.e. he is not bonded w/him through his heart, their children, or memory. I can completely respect someone who doesn't want to marry a nonvirg. I assume that they are virg's themselves, not a problem, I completely understand.
Virgin of nonvirg, you always have to deal w/something in the past. Many virgin men are hooked on inappropriate contentography, and that's a major problem in keeping the marriage bed pure. What about those clear and present memories of the inappropriate content? (no, I don't think looking at inappropriate content makes takes your virginity)
But I refuse to accept that I must carry the guilt and shame, even after repentance, for the rest of my life! Sheeesh! I think that those emotions can be major burdens in seeking God - and if someone is still carrying those after repentance, it's not of God, but torture from either our own minds or the devil.