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Kink in christian marriage

Discussion in 'Ethics & Morality' started by Shard, Oct 19, 2013.

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  1. Shard

    Shard The Echelon

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    I was discussing with a few friends the concepts of sex in a christian marriage when the concept of kink came up and whether or not it was acceptable. NOw we are talking BDSM, dom/sub, toys, etc.

    What do the rest of you think about this?
     
  2. KitKatMatt

    KitKatMatt stupid bleeding heart feminist liberal

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    Consensual sexual activity between adults?

    No problem there. Kinks are OK as long as everyone consents and no one is hurt (as in physical or emotional pain that is not wanted or agreed upon beforehand).
     
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    Nithavela New Member

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    Whatever floats your boat, buddy.
     
  4. Cearbhall

    Cearbhall Unitarian Universalist; university student

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    This should be a fun thread.

    One of the most entertaining things I've found on the internet is articles on very proper Q&A Christian sites about the use of sex toys. You wind up with an image of angels using dildos on each other at God's feet, the way they talk about it.
     
  5. mandyangel

    mandyangel Regular Member

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    its all beautiful and wonderful to express yourself to your partner in sex

    I say go for it and then some!
     
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    Rhamiel Member of the Round Table

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    I think that some people are naturally submissive and some are naturally dominate,

    if these people get married, it makes sense that it would be a part of their entire life...
    including in the bedroom
     
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    Verv Senior Veteran

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    I would be cautious to overindulge in any manner of sexual action. But I do not think it is important that I interfere with the sex lives of others...

    But, if one's sexuality becomes a dominant feature in one's life, simply because it is now 'heterosexual sex' does not mean that it is somehow now a glorious affair.
     
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    CounselorForChrist Senior Veteran

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    As a christian whos married theres nothings wrong with being kinky. However there are still some things that are not acceptable. If you include kids or animals. If you watch porn while having sex (not that you should watch porn in general). No anal. Aside from that anything is valid.
     
  9. Shard

    Shard The Echelon

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    wow since when does kinky involve kids or animals? you might need to work on your definitions. and what is your issue with anal?
     
  10. Gadarene

    Gadarene Disregard females, acquire currency

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    Anal is barely even kinky anymore.
     
  11. Verv

    Verv Senior Veteran

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    I am unsure what the point would be to invest a lot of time and effort into sexual relations beyond doing the obvious.
     
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    KitKatMatt stupid bleeding heart feminist liberal

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    Why isn't anal allowed? I don't recall any mention in the Bible that says that.
     
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    DaisyDay blind squirrel

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    Those roles are often switched in the bedroom.
     
  14. Gadarene

    Gadarene Disregard females, acquire currency

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    I sense an argument involving the terms "sodomy" or "sexual immorality" is marching with ill-deserved confidence towards this thread.

    Along with "blasphemy", they have proven to be very....adaptable terms for condemning things people personally disapprove of.
     
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    KitKatMatt stupid bleeding heart feminist liberal

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    Well, all the power to them I guess.

    As long as they don't try to make it illegal again. Texas just only kicked that a few years ago.
     
  16. Gadarene

    Gadarene Disregard females, acquire currency

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    Legally of course, I'm sure the actual act would still have been going on for a while ^_^
     
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    God designed the bodies of men and women with sex as one of the natural functions of marriage. Like anything, sex can be misused. If self-gratification is the ONLY motivation of a particular act, there has to be some caution as to whether God would approve. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that we need to ask whether a particular sexual act falls within the natural use of the body of a man/woman. God designed man/woman to fit together perfectly well and I can't see how the use of "toys" etc need to be added to the creation of sex by God.

    I am NOT saying it is definitely wrong as the Bible is silent on this type of thing. I would just caution against saying that anything goes - this is a judgment call for each Christian couple. I also think a good test for any type of Christian behaviour is to ask ourselves if we would be comfortable doing any given act in the presence of God and this is certainly a good test in area of sexual activity...
     
  18. Paradoxum

    Paradoxum Liberty, Equality, Solidarity!

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    Why would kinkiness be immoral? It just sounds to me like asking whether it is wrong to eat spicy food. I don't understand what the potential problem would be.

    Why no anal? Seems like a random thing to ban.

    Why would God care? Seems like a rather petty concern for God. If I eat for pleasure, or play sport for enjoyment alone, is that wrong?

    All uses of the body are natural. If they weren't natural then we wouldn't be able to use our natural bodies to do the action.

    God also gave us legs, but we use cars anyway. Is that unnatural and immoral, if your legs work? Some people even drive for fun.

    I wouldn't say that is a good test. How people feel about actions can be a product of upbringing. Eg: we are told certain things are dirty, so we feel slightly uncomfortable about them, even if they aren't immoral.

    :)
     
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    mandyangel Regular Member

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    AMEN GIRL!! You said it exactly how I feel better than I could. This is so spot on. I like lingerie, bikinis, dancing, and preforming and it is all completely natural, I LOVE THIS!!!
     
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    Cearbhall Unitarian Universalist; university student

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    And only when the federal government made them do so.
     
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