I got divorced 3 years ago and have two daughters now 8 and 9 from my past marriages, one I have sole custody of, the other I have week on/week off. 3 years ago right around the time my divorce was finalized I had a brief 2-3 week relationship with a woman I knew from my childhood. She became pregnant, and around the time she told me she was pregnant which was literally 3-4 weeks after we first got together she admitted to me she was married, but only legally and had been separated for many years. I also found out that she had a boyfriend as well-I didn't know any of this when I was seeing her. Throughout the pregnancy she continually would go back and forth telling me I was not the father, I was, I wasn't, I was, and so forth. Finally after more than 2 years things lined up to where we both agreed to a paternity test, I bought the test and sent a friend to collect the baby's sample and at 2 years old I found out he actually is mine. After she found out the results this woman all of the sudden was demanding that I meet up with her and him to visit, and when and where and all of that, but I told her I wasn't sure what I really wanted to do, whether I was going to be in his life not because I have mixed feelings about it, and that the main reason for the test was to first and foremost find out if I was his father, and to also get child support going because I feel I owe him at least that. The moment I told her that I wanted to go to court so I could pay child support she flipped out and demanded that I sign off my rights so that her new boyfriend can adopt him. I know what she is saying can't happen like that, but the way she acts with violent bursts of rage is the main reason I have stayed away from her. I also think that she may or may not be collecting child support from someone else for our child and i'm on disability and she knows that she won't get much from me, but that part is all speculation. Anyways, I hurt daily over this, I am a great dad to my daughters but I feel like this woman would put me through hell to see my son and I just don't know if that's good for anyone. No one knows I have a son except my mother and girlfriend, my children do not know they have a half brother. What kills me the most is that I feel all alone in this struggle and like i'm always looking over my shoulder. I really just don't know what to do and I do not know what is best. Is it inherently wrong to feel like it might be better to stay out of his life and just keep an open door if he someday searches me out when he's old enough to make that decision? Should my children and family know about him if i'm not going to see him? This woman has a new boyfriend and they been together for a couple of years as well and he knows him as "dad". I am just so torn up about this.