Hi Everyone,
My name's Sareh, this is my first post here. I have been married almost three years. My husband and I have one daughter who is almost two.
We've gone through the expected troubles newlyweds go through like financial issues, figuring out our individual responsibilities and learning to compromise and play our wifely and husband roles.
My husband didn't grow up with a mom and dad that were together. I thought that after a couple of years of being together, we'd be able to come up with our own rhythm or communicating; that was probably my mistake. We have gotten better, but whenever we get in disagreements, and they aren't usually big ones, maybe about cleaning or how we do household chores, he will say things that are out of proportion to the disagreement. He will sometimes say that what I'm doing is stupid or dumb or words of that sort. Those things bother me very much, they feel very demeaning. I have explained myself in a calm manner many times. I have tried to come up with solutions and get advice from others, I have prayed very much. My dad was always a little mean mouthed to my mother growing up and no matter how they thought they were going to handle it, he never changed. So I don't want to expect that my husband will change and feel like I have to live with this. I also don't know how we can handle things with his attitude or if I want to teach my daughter that his behavior and my acceptance of it is ok.
I know God doesn't want me to give up on our marriage and I want to stay married and come up with a solution...but I don't know what to do. If anyone can give me advice I'd really appreciate it.
Thank you <3
My name's Sareh, this is my first post here. I have been married almost three years. My husband and I have one daughter who is almost two.
We've gone through the expected troubles newlyweds go through like financial issues, figuring out our individual responsibilities and learning to compromise and play our wifely and husband roles.
My husband didn't grow up with a mom and dad that were together. I thought that after a couple of years of being together, we'd be able to come up with our own rhythm or communicating; that was probably my mistake. We have gotten better, but whenever we get in disagreements, and they aren't usually big ones, maybe about cleaning or how we do household chores, he will say things that are out of proportion to the disagreement. He will sometimes say that what I'm doing is stupid or dumb or words of that sort. Those things bother me very much, they feel very demeaning. I have explained myself in a calm manner many times. I have tried to come up with solutions and get advice from others, I have prayed very much. My dad was always a little mean mouthed to my mother growing up and no matter how they thought they were going to handle it, he never changed. So I don't want to expect that my husband will change and feel like I have to live with this. I also don't know how we can handle things with his attitude or if I want to teach my daughter that his behavior and my acceptance of it is ok.
I know God doesn't want me to give up on our marriage and I want to stay married and come up with a solution...but I don't know what to do. If anyone can give me advice I'd really appreciate it.
Thank you <3