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Is Marriage really worth it?

Discussion in 'Married Couples' started by dabro, Dec 2, 2010.

  1. dabro

    dabro A child of the living God.

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    It's just a ? to myself. I haven't dated in 6 yr's and I got tangled up with a non believer about ywo months agos. The first time I had ever been with anybody and it got rough the first day we met. I know that married christians has got to be awsome but, I for one seem happier alone but, there are times where I get lonely. Like I would love to watch a chick flick with my wife in the bed and fall asleep in each others arms together. I know it's mushy but, I hear that marriage is a BIG commitment so there are alot of things that can cause distrust. I just hope if God is ever willing which I have come to a place where I accept being alone but if He does bring me someone will it be worth it. I would cherish her like no other. I'm just concerned is God looking into the future and seeing that I would be a problem or is it just not time yet. What do you guys think? Is marriage worth almost everything to you besides God?
     
  2. Key

    Key The Opener of Locks

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    I think you should try the dating thing. Maybe look into Christian Singles and such.

    Marriage can be a cubic ton of issues, and not something anyone should jump into.

    However snuggling on the sofa watching a chick flick is kinda cool, I've done that before with my my wife. But then again, I've done that with some of my former GF's as well.

    Go out and test the waters, see where life leads you.

    God Bless
     
  3. Peripatetic

    Peripatetic Restless mind, peaceful soul.

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    I agree. Maybe try keeping an open mind, and maybe take a few proactive steps if you have trouble meeting people. Don't worry too much about marriage at first. Just take it one step at a time. But also keep an open mind about staying single. Having a good perspective will really help you.
     
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    chingchang Newbie

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    Not sure what you're asking? Is marriage a good idea? Is that what you're asking?

    CC
     
  5. CuddlyBear

    CuddlyBear Newbie

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    For me, marriage is worth it. Sure, it has challenges and struggles along the way but I like to have someone by my side who can be my rock and who I can love in return. That works because he is the right person for me to be with though. I would rather be alone than married to the wrong person. Marriage is not for everyone. It sounds to me like you are not sure if you would prefer to continue alone or look at marriage? I'd suggest that you just see what unfolds naturally. If you meet someone you want to marry, and are sure they are right, then marry them. If not, just continue as it is.
     
  6. Nienna_Lady_of_Tears

    Nienna_Lady_of_Tears Veteran

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    Falling asleep in each others arms?

    Doesn't happen. You usually end up saying goodnight and then rolling to opposite sides of the bed, and if you have to sleep a certain way sometimes you're even turned away from your spouse.

    Like I HAVE to be on the right side of the bed, sleeping on my right side. My husband has to be on the left side of the bed sleeping on his left side. So our backs are too each other.


    I've heard of very very very few couples who can actually cuddle while sleeping.
     
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  7. Avniel

    Avniel Doing my part each day by being the best me

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    I say marriage is defiantly worth it as a newly wed its amazing getting to know the person your supposed to be with for the rest of your life. Like me I sweat in my sleep and she thinks its the funniest thing she calls me her big baby, like I didn't know she could rub my face till I feel asleep. I say marrying definitely is worth it I mean it is a physical sacrifice to a person you love and a spiritual bond and a legal document. To go through all of that and lay next to the woman you love and see her mouth open and she farts while making a nasty face its def worth it :)
     
  8. dabro

    dabro A child of the living God.

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    Haha Well I like a few ppl but one sticks out and she's a christian. We just live so far away from each other and I would love to marry someone. Thanks guys and gals for your responses.
     
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    Lena75 New Member

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    This sounds very much like us! Except I have to sleep on my left, which I've done since I was pregnant, so now it's habit. He has always slept on his right. That was actually our first very minor argument on our first night together. Who gets which side of the bed! :D

    We don't fall asleep in each others arms much at all. Only if I fall asleep on him while watching a movie, sitting on the couch. We smooch, roll over and sleep on our edges of the bed. Halfway through the night we're practically fighting over who gets the middle of the bed. Such fun! ^_^

    I say marriage is totally worth it. Ain't no bed of roses, but neither would being single for all your life.
     
  10. dabro

    dabro A child of the living God.

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    That sound so like so much fun just rolling over and pushing her saying your on my side of the bed. Aw it just sounds refreshing to hear ya'lls responses. I mostly in the single forums so to hear you guys is nice.
     
  11. Speculative

    Speculative Senior Veteran

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    I've changed this post because it wasn't helpful. The 'Cloverfield' line in it was money, though. You all should've given me mad reps for that.
     
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  12. Kol

    Kol Just some guy

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    http://www.christianforums.com/t4817431/

    A few years ago I posted this in the young adults' forum. I was around your age. I lived on my own until I married at 28. I think I was lonely, physically and emotionally, and I think I was somehow in a position most people never see or understand. I think you are there now. I don't know what to call it, but I perceive it.

    Stay away from non-believers. Marriage is hard as anything to make work. It is all-consuming. It drains every aspect of your life. A non-believer will easily break a grown man's heart. You don't need that teenage drama.

    The loneliness thing only gets worse as everyone around you gets married.

    If you are truly committed to the Lord, then you should know (should be warned) the committment required in marriage will take a heavy tax from your time with Him.

    In short, "worth it" or not...it's not that kind of an issue. It's more like living in a different form of government in Civilization, or junctioning a different GF in Final Fantasy. It's not better or worse, it's just different. Equally valid, equally challenging. It is great now that I have a wife and kid, to get all the hugs and attention (and drool), but there are also arguments and stress and dirty diapers and doctors' visits.

    I hope you figure this out. My prayers are with you, dude.
     
  13. waxlion10

    waxlion10 Just shut up and be delicious- Dwight

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    This is usually what happens in our home, too, when we're intentionally going to sleep...

    but there have been so many times where we've just been watching a movie or TV show and fallen asleep together. It's one of the sweetest feelings ever :)



    To answer the question "is marriage worth it?"

    I've only been married for four months, but we dated for almost five years before we got married. Relationships are hard, but they're absolutely worth it. God has blessed me IMMENSELY with my wonderful husband, and I wouldn't trade all the tough times with him for an "easy" life without him.
     
  14. dabro

    dabro A child of the living God.

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    I have five cats. One is my precious Two face. Thats her name cos she has a line going down her face. One part is white the other is grey. She cheers me up alot. When I really down she know exactly what to do to get me back in the mood.
     
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    I know we are cautioned to stay from unequally yoked. My wife is a Christian, its not on my radar, but these days, Im not seeing that this is the predictor or problems it maybe once was.
    If she is not in church, she may have some funny ideas that dont align with yours, BUT in church she will have some different funny ideas that dont line w/ yours except these funny ideas she will learn scripture to rattle off to support them.

    Tread adroitly
     
  16. Brandlynn

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    having a spouse is about as worthless as starting a bon fire in an igloo. The only thing that marriage is worth is the cost for the lawyer to divorce them.
     
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    I LOVE being married. I am married to a wonderful Christian man; we've been married for 25 years. I love always having someone to talk to, and someone to listen to if I feel like being quiet. Although I do submit to him (we like Ephesians), we are partners and discuss everything. We love watching stupid movies together, movies that some other people may not appreciate and laughing together while having crackers & cheese. I love sitting proudly with him while we watch our children accomplish things.

    Like a number of couples here, we sleep on opposite ends of the bed, backs facing, but we only have a double, so we're not too far away from each other...and we have ended up at times snuggled together.

    We have FAIR arguments, not resorting to name-calling or bringing up past wrongs (1 Corinthians 13, anyone?) or cheap shots.

    ...and I really don't like chick flicks... :D
     
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    Conservativation New Member

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    But what about the wrangler rear and the guitar and all that?
     
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    I think it's worth it. Enough to make a second (and thankfully much better) attempt at it after my first marriage failed.

    And we almost fall asleep in each other's arms. He spoons me until I'm almost asleep and I wrap my arm through the one he drapes over my body. I get cold easily, so he is my heater until I'm warm enough to drift off. We wrap our feet up together too b/c I have ice cubes for toes. :angel:
     
  20. Lena75

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    Inuits have fires in their igloos. They make it work.


    I honestly cannot imagine my life NOT being married. I just LOVE IT!! :clap:
     
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