Can anyone provide biblical evidence to support a certain side to this. I believe that it IS wrong to continue dating someone once you are sure they are not the person God has intended you to be with. I find strong evidence in the passage of 1 Corinthians 7 where it explains that God uses singleness as a time for you to grow closer to him. I am curious to see what you guys think about it. Remember, we're assuming you are 100% this person is not the one for you.
Is it wrong to continue dating someone once you know you are not going to marry them?
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The same passage came to my mind when I read the question as well. It seems pointless and misleading to continue a relationship that will not ultimately lead to marriage. If you know for a fact that you will never marry them then it would be best to end the relationship for both sides.
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The assumption is you are 100% sure you aren't going to marry them, but how can you be so sure?
I mean if its because you really dislike them, why would you even want to carry on dating them?
If you really like them, but for some reason can't see yourself marrying them, I don't think that makes you sure you are never going to marry them.
I mean if its because you really dislike them, why would you even want to carry on dating them?
If you really like them, but for some reason can't see yourself marrying them, I don't think that makes you sure you are never going to marry them.
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That would be difficult since the scriptures were written 1900 years BEFORE the idea of "dating" even came to be.
It is kinda like asking if there is a scripture that says you should have a smart phone instead of a land line.
My OPINION is that if you know she/he is NOT the one; then break it off and let them move on. It is not fair to them to keep them hanging on to something you know will not work out.
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....what?
Well, the definition of adultery in the gospels say it.Doesn't it ?.
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May be Waiting for somebody better to come along.Kind of obvious is it not ?.
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marry?
you mean do something that the state recognizes as a marriage , or something that God recognizes?
because if you have been intimate you are in God's eyes already
"married"/ and one with that person in the flesh and to the bones .. until one of you dies
just saying . should you keep looking for a Mrs Next? probably not.
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Going by what is described in the gospels any sexual contact or intent is adultery unless it is with one's own spouse.
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I never dated in high school. I was in band with a set of sisters; one 2 years older (J), one in my grade (C), and one 2 years younger (N). J was a wild hippie type and went to Michigan State (where I also went). During my sophmore year N came up to visit J and check out the college. I heard she was coming and invited her to go to church with me over the weekend. (we had a Saturday evening service) So she went there with me; and went back home and told everyone she had went out on a date with me. (NOT!!!)
So was that committing adultery?
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Scripturally, adultery always involves a married woman. That fact just does not come across well in english.
And if there is "sexual contact or intent," I would say that is more than just dating.
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Is the person you are dating expecting that the relationship will lead to marriage? The other person should certainly be told that marriage is not on the cards. There is no excuse ever for leading a person on. Once the person is told, it is really up to them whether they are willing to continue the relationship.
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No, unless you entertained sexual thoughts involving her.
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