Even within EO there are the ones who "follow" a charismatic and "putting someone on the pedestal ". Human nature does not change as long as that person realizes that "his power" is limited and acts appropriately and not as a "guru" I have no problem. But there are exceptions. I think your hubby is probably projecting unconsciouly... We are all biased so I would not worry about it. Usually spouses take some time to realize EO is a true Christianity just in its Ancient form
I would let him experience it the bad and the good... and let him decide.
As a priest's wife I have seen many converts some come to the church through their spouse...Some do not at all, and some do take the long route. It is ok IMHO it is all about our comfort zone and what we are not comfortable with do take a long time to adopt and accept some do not even to bother to come out of that at all.
Pray for him that is the best gift we can all give to others and our family
Thanks, Philothei.
I'm sure I came across a little worse than I meant to. If my husband jumped on like it was a bandwagon, I'd actually worry about him. He takes his faith seriously, and that's one thing I admire about him. He's very careful.
What I don't like is that he seems to be of the mind that I can't know anything, and his previous threats to keep me from going, and his refusal to discuss it. To be clear, I don't mind if he doesn't want to talk about it, as long as it's not with the mind of saying I can't go. All I want is to be allowed to go to church.
And he usually follows the "if you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all" rule, so I don't want to complain about the few slips.
While it would be beyond wonderful to have him join me, I can be satisfied, as long as I can go. I guess it would make me a little sad. But I fully believe he loves God and is in the faith. I don't need to try to drag him into Orthodoxy, nor would I. One thing I have come to understand is that this is something that needs to be taken seriously, imo. It's not like deciding to go to a Methodist church one week and a Church of God the next week. It's something he would have to seek for himself, if he's interested, and not to please me.
I hope I didn't imply anything else. I was off musing, because I got a clearer picture of how he thinks of his former pastor, and why in some ways it has been hard for him.
It might lead in other ways to the difficulties now. Because I have great respect for his pastor, and I think he has had some wonderful teachings, and I've listened to him, but ... I think the man has a couple of blind spots and hasn't handled everything as lovingly as he could have. Because they were things my husband and I were discussing, I tried to present my opinion, though with the utmost respect. But I am reminded a few months ago, my husband said to me that I "turned him against his former pastor." Which I don't think I did, I am careful to praise the man in general, but I won't say that he's perfect and I do maintain that he has his blind spots. I think it's wise to be open to the idea that any man can have areas he's not perfect in.
And I'm not surprised that happens in Orthodoxy either. In fact, it may be possibly more widespread, if not just as widespread. Though I don't so much see it happening with current teachers, I certainly see the writings of certain men much emphasized.
I don't see a problem with that though. I have my favorites too ... quite a number of them. I don't see the men as perfect and infallible, but I don't necessarily see anything wrong in their teachings either, and I find I really love reading what they had to say.
In that vein, I don't see a problem with it. Some people probably do go overboard, I would guess.
Yes, I will pray for him. More than anything, I will pray for peace between us, because that is needed. He's going to have to make up his own mind, for whatever he chooses.
I do wish he wouldn't see it as a cult though, lol.