I struggle with poor social skills, have a heart of gold who cares about compassion and morality, refusing to budge on either. I care about what's right, just and good. I have the spiritual gift of Mercy I want God's will above all things. However, when I take a stand for Christ, I am seen as a bigot.
I also am recovering from brokenness and unresolved hurts. I was debating whether to put this in the Bi-polar forum, for I am also bi-polar. Right now, I found a church where people are more supportive, helpful and compassionate than previous churches. I confronted a friend and member of my Baptist church about being pro-gay, and she defended her posture and her position as a deacon. Of course she was very offended and said some accusing things to me reminding me of how good she had been to our family including our autistic 5 year old son. I have a goal and calling of peacemaker, but my hurts are such that I am not ready, as I found myself explaining myself as well as defending my posture. I realize my need to care more about people's faithfulness to Christ than to me, but I am in such need of help and support because I am struggling, that I still worry about whether people will accept me. What if she turns the whole church against me and despite the rest of the people being true Christians, they turn against me still. I think about stuff like this like conditional loyalty for example all the time, and it drives me crazy. I so fear rejection and lack of help when we need it most. What if I blew it? I will not compromise where I stand with Christ, but what if I messed up big time? My already broken heart cannot handle the church turning against us, while we are still vulnerable and in need of moral support.
I also am recovering from brokenness and unresolved hurts. I was debating whether to put this in the Bi-polar forum, for I am also bi-polar. Right now, I found a church where people are more supportive, helpful and compassionate than previous churches. I confronted a friend and member of my Baptist church about being pro-gay, and she defended her posture and her position as a deacon. Of course she was very offended and said some accusing things to me reminding me of how good she had been to our family including our autistic 5 year old son. I have a goal and calling of peacemaker, but my hurts are such that I am not ready, as I found myself explaining myself as well as defending my posture. I realize my need to care more about people's faithfulness to Christ than to me, but I am in such need of help and support because I am struggling, that I still worry about whether people will accept me. What if she turns the whole church against me and despite the rest of the people being true Christians, they turn against me still. I think about stuff like this like conditional loyalty for example all the time, and it drives me crazy. I so fear rejection and lack of help when we need it most. What if I blew it? I will not compromise where I stand with Christ, but what if I messed up big time? My already broken heart cannot handle the church turning against us, while we are still vulnerable and in need of moral support.