I don't belong anywhere

[Ladyghosthunter]

When I reach out for help and try to make friends, they all just leave or I'm ignored. I've been ignored all of my life. It's very painful and it triggers me often.

Why is it on this board the same thing happens? I said hi and everyone avoids me like the plague. What did I do or say that has people avoiding me. Not one person has said hi...no one. Am I that bad of a person?

 

[rob_aston]

Am I that bad of a person?
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big no! precious to the Lord and He wants you when u ready

 

[Ladyghosthunter]

I feel avoided, shunned, ridiculed and it sends me to my knees. Is this what it's like being a martyr or a saint that has suffered horrendous acts of violence for their faith? I don't feel like a human being right now. Sorry but I'm crying.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Is this what it's like being a martyr or a saint that has suffered horrendous acts of violence for their faith?

No. Corrie ten Boom, learned and experienced like those in the Bible
Joy, Peace, and Love during her horrendous prison camp experiences.
Her testimonies of God's Faithfulness
(books OR youtube(a lot available) ) might be the most gentle ,
safest, and
best upbuilding and uplifting (for anyone, of any age)
to watch of all that's available.

Oh, and Nora Lam, who was arrested and made to do slave labor in a rock quarry while pregnant, never gave up, as
shown in the book and movie "For Those Tears",
is very encouraging of God's Faithfulness when we can do nothing,
but I don't know if that's available for free or not.

 

[CodyFaith]

Matthew 5:3
Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

May you rest in Christ, Jesus loves you.

 

[thecolorsblend]

When I reach out for help and try to make friends, they all just leave or I'm ignored. I've been ignored all of my life. It's very painful and it triggers me often.

Why is it on this board the same thing happens? I said hi and everyone avoids me like the plague. What did I do or say that has people avoiding me. Not one person has said hi...no one. Am I that bad of a person?

People are frequently guilty of not considering other peoples' ideas and feelings. They just say or do the first thing that comes to mind and to heck with what anyone else thinks.

The good news is that people aren't trying to hurt you. I'm not sure if that helps when you're the one being hurt or feeling left out but at least you know it's not intentional on their part.

 

[Catherineanne]

When I reach out for help and try to make friends, they all just leave or I'm ignored. I've been ignored all of my life. It's very painful and it triggers me often.

Why is it on this board the same thing happens? I said hi and everyone avoids me like the plague. What did I do or say that has people avoiding me. Not one person has said hi...no one. Am I that bad of a person?

Hi Heather.

I am afraid you have to leave it a few hours before looking for replies; I for one live in the UK, and have only just got up. When you were posting and looking for a response just an hour or so later, I was asleep. I certainly would not have ignored you.

I am afraid you are finding what is familiar to you, and assuming that this situation is the same. This place is not the same; you are not a bad person and nobody is avoiding you. But you are being triggered by non replies into thinking that we are treating you badly. And in case you think I don't know what I am talking about, I have the same condition as you, and I find myself responding to the world in the exact same way. I do it all the time, and cause myself a lot of grief in the process.

This can be a safe place for you, as long as you are careful to protect yourself. One way might be by posting last thing at night, switching off the PC and then seeing in the morning who has replied. And keep away from any part of the forum which might cause you distress or harm, for now.

Take care.

 

[Catherineanne]

I feel avoided, shunned, ridiculed and it sends me to my knees. Is this what it's like being a martyr or a saint that has suffered horrendous acts of violence for their faith? I don't feel like a human being right now. Sorry but I'm crying.

These feelings came to you just a couple of hours after you joined the forum and first posted.

I know the feelings are intense and seem to be real, but please realise they are not caused by this place or anyone here. They are feelings from what happened before, transferred into the present moment.

You have to give people on a message board time to reply; we don't all sit here all the time looking for people to respond to.

And now for the good news; you have opened yourself to the possiblity of rejection and taken a huge chance by coming here and posting at all. For someone with our condition this is a huge act of faith and hope. You are paying for taking that chance by the anxiety that it has caused to you, which is indeed like physical pain; but you won.

You registered here, you posted, you waited and you are now making friends. You fought against all of your worst fears, you took a chance and now you are not being avoided, you are not being shunned and you are not being ridiculed. Anyone who wants to attempt any of those things will have to go through me first!

This is where you belong. x

 

[Dave-W]

Why is it on this board the same thing happens? I said hi and everyone avoids me like the plague. What did I do or say that has people avoiding me. Not one person has said hi...no one.

Well, that stops here. "HI ! ! !"

There is no way we can tell what kind of person you are, so there is no way we can think you a "bad person." In your OP, it sounds like you have been wounded by rejection. The devil loves to jump on that, something like poking at a wound so you stay in pain.

I pray you find a safe place here to heal.

 

[NicoleWilliams]

Aww.. I am so sorry you’re feeling that way. Please know that the Lord cares for you and loves you deeply. And, remember that God is a faithful Friend forever, whose love and acceptance never changes. He will always be by your side, ready to listen to your heart and provide wisdom and guidance in all the aspects of your life. Also, I feel it would be a good idea if you can surround yourself with some encouraging people around you – like your family or church members. It might be helpful. I just said a prayer for you and hope you will feel better. Hugs!

 

[daughterofthemosthigh7]

Hi! and tell that stupid devil to shut up! sending ~love~ & prayers

 

[faroukfarouk]

Not one person has said hi...no one. Am I that bad of a person?

http://www.christianforums.com/threads/hi.7967449/#post-70189377

 

[Lily76_]

Dont listen to the devil he whispers lies to you
the truth is Jesus focus on him

 

[sparkle123]

Hi there. Just want to say that I didn't see your post until now, but I too understand what it's like to feel rejected when people don't respond quickly. For me, I'm very shy ... Have few friends "irl" and it's hard to put myself out there on or off the internet. I was made fun of a lot as a kid and had a very hard time at home and it's stuck with me, this expectation/fear of rejection. I'm sure I'm not unique in having had some pretty terrible experiences like this, but it sticks with you...

I hope you'll come back. These forums have been good for me and I think they could be good for you too. Hope all is well.