Hi! I'm hoping for some insight. My husband has repeatedly told me he'd like me to lose fat on my stomach. I very much wish I could honor this request, but I have two impediments:
1. According to our scale, I weigh 127 pounds. At 5'9”, that puts me at a BMI of just under 19. My doctor has told me several times that I should weigh 135, and that I risk osteoporosis if I weigh lower than that. (I am at a high risk for osteoporosis because I had anorexia in the past (BMI of less than 16), and my periods stopped for more than a year.)
2. I have a persistent knee injury that has made it difficult for me to do muscle-building exercises. Gaining more muscle in my lower body might help my stomach look better, but when I try to do weighted strength exercises, I end up getting more injured. I have gone to physical therapy and am slowly working my way up to this, but it will realistically be a long time before I can gain enough muscle for it to make a big difference in my appearance.
In light of this, I have two questions:
1. How should I respond to my husband's dissatisfaction? Stomach fat is a sensitive issue for me, and knowing that he is unhappy with my body (for something that feels beyond my control) makes me feel inadequate, angry, and sad. I am tempted to feel resentful towards my husband. Any Christian advice on how to not have this hurt me so much would be greatly appreciated.
2. Is there anything I can do to improve the appearance of my stomach? I already do a variety of abdominal exercises to target each section, and I do my best to eat healthy. When I asked my husband if I should get surgery, he said “probably not.”
Thank you in advance for any help you can offer! I really appreciate it!
1. According to our scale, I weigh 127 pounds. At 5'9”, that puts me at a BMI of just under 19. My doctor has told me several times that I should weigh 135, and that I risk osteoporosis if I weigh lower than that. (I am at a high risk for osteoporosis because I had anorexia in the past (BMI of less than 16), and my periods stopped for more than a year.)
2. I have a persistent knee injury that has made it difficult for me to do muscle-building exercises. Gaining more muscle in my lower body might help my stomach look better, but when I try to do weighted strength exercises, I end up getting more injured. I have gone to physical therapy and am slowly working my way up to this, but it will realistically be a long time before I can gain enough muscle for it to make a big difference in my appearance.
In light of this, I have two questions:
1. How should I respond to my husband's dissatisfaction? Stomach fat is a sensitive issue for me, and knowing that he is unhappy with my body (for something that feels beyond my control) makes me feel inadequate, angry, and sad. I am tempted to feel resentful towards my husband. Any Christian advice on how to not have this hurt me so much would be greatly appreciated.
2. Is there anything I can do to improve the appearance of my stomach? I already do a variety of abdominal exercises to target each section, and I do my best to eat healthy. When I asked my husband if I should get surgery, he said “probably not.”
Thank you in advance for any help you can offer! I really appreciate it!