I wish it was that easy, ImaginaryDay, I came home at 6 in the evening yesterday, only to find a dried pee puddle on the floor. He won't clean it and if he does he mops it and then puts the mop back without using any cleaner or rinsing out the mop.
Turkle and ShaulHaTarsi, I haven't actually had a chance to say anything to him yet, so I haven't asked him about who he loves more. From the beginning of our marriage he pretty much never seemed to care about my feelings and if I cry in front of him, he makes fun of me. He says we "don't go by our feelings." He buys what he wants, when he wants without any regard or consideration of how I feel about it. This dog he just got at a garage sale about two months ago. He never asked me how I felt about getting another dog. He wanted it so he brought it home. He brags every day how far he's walked with the dogs and tells me almost every weekend that we've had the little dog for "such and such" weeks now. He named the dog his own name so I won't say the name here, but it just frustrates me so much. I don't think any decision about giving the dog away would be a reasonable request to him.
He has always cluttered, but has never been this unsanitary. It seems he just doesn't care. He never takes anything I say seriously, so if I said I wanted to go to counseling he'd probably just laugh and say he doesn't need counseling as there is nothing wrong with him.