Mmbattlstar
Your post and excitement and infatuation with your wife is moving. However, your love for you wife has not been tested for very long. I am not saying that you and your wife do not love each other it is just that you have not been tested for many years. I hope that after 20-30 years you and your wife are still really “struck” with each other as you are in your first year.
Having met your wife on the internet for less than a month and you saying “I love you” is very romantic but seems very rare. I will say this; you and your wife have a GREAT start and I hope that you and your wife continue your love for each other for the next 50 years. Your expressed love for your wife is definitely a higher degree than the degree 1 and 2 that I mentioned in my last post.
You seem to be very confident with your statement below:
My main point in my last post was that I think that the “I Love you” is trivial and demeaning to the true power of the word when it is used in such situations as I described in my last post (degree 1 and degree 2). Mmbattlestar, even though your love has not been tested for many years, your love is much higher than what I described in my previous sentence.
Using the words “I love you” in such trivial situations just seems to diminish the great power that true love has. I have seen people in love with the words “I love you” that they will jump in with both feet before they test the love to see if it is real and deep.
You're right, I haven't known my Wife for an extremely long time. I moved really fast with her, and most people today probably wouldn't have moved as fast as we did. Life is extremely strange. My Grandmother got married at 23 years old after only knowing my Grandfather for a few weeks.
That's right, a few weeks. So they moved A LOT faster than my Wife and I did and quite frankly? I don't think even I would do that. But, they were together until my Grandfather passed away 5 years ago. I still consider them together because my Grandmother has remained faithful to my Grandfather and hasn't dated anyone since he passed. My Grandfather would be 91 years old if he was still alive and it would have been their 61st anniversary last month.
So, sometimes when you know the person is the right person, you just know. It can take a few weeks or it can take days. Or it can take years, it all depends.
I mostly wanted to make the point though of, I don't regret it. Nor will I ever regret it. Our marriage has problems but, what marriage doesn't? Even if my Wife and I dated for 10 years before getting married the end result would still be the same. We still would have argued a lot and we still would have talked through our disagreements. We still probably would have had sex and have had children at the same time that we will have children now.
As for saying "I love you" really early, I felt that I loved my Wife at the time I said it so, I said it. My Wife didn't Judge me for it because she knew that it came from the heart and that I did feel at the time like, I loved her. She wasn't quite ready to say it back because she didn't 100% feel it. But, a few days later she did say it back.
I am confident in my statement because, I trust my Wife and I trust in the LORD. If I didn't trust my Wife what would the point marrying her? What would be the point in living together everyday?
We've been through a lot in the last 2 and a half years that we've been together. It's a very short period of time but, we got through a lot of things. We got through poverty, we got through almost losing the house that my parents set up for me, we got through her Father having a stroke, we got through the countless pointless arguments and inane disagreements equivalant to who left the toilet seat up. We got through my Father's recent car accident, we got through... well, lots of stuff. It's been a busy 2 and a half years.
I am confident that we will be together forever because, neither of us really believe in Divorce. The Bible and the LORD have been very clear on their stances of Divorce.
We believe that once you make those sacred vows, that's it you're bound to each other for eternity. So, that's another reason why I am 100% confident that we will be together for eternity. That, and when you actually stop and think about the things that seem so big to you, they're not really all that big. So what if you're poor? So what if you're in constant debt? Is that REALLY going to change your life much? Is that REALLY worth breaking the vows that you made to each other over? Because, in the end NONE of this stuff is going to carry with you through death. NONE OF IT. But, your spouse WILL. You start to learn what's really important in life and all of your countless arguments just start to sound silly. Like, who really cares if the toilet seat is up or down? Either way you look at it, one sex has to quit being lazy and actually put the toilet seat down.
