I am sorry you are struggling so hard with this. I understand where you are coming from. I was there too. I was raised by abusive alcoholic parents involved in the occult with all kinds of "not so good" people all over our home, daily doing as they pleased to us kids without any restraint from the parents that were suppose to be loving and protecting us. So it wasn't even just our parents, it was there "friends" as well.
It helps to forgive others when you look at things from THEIR prospective.Ask God to show you THEIR pain, their fears, the things that CAUSED them to treat you so badly. I can guarantee you that THEY didn't just wake up one day and say "Oh I am going to just abuse my child, make her feel useless, unloved, dirty and ashamed." Sinful things happened to THEM that CAUSED them to be the way they are.
That is how satan operates. Once he gets a foothold, he can waltz right in and put them in chains where they are unable to do what is right and good in God's eyes and become slaves to the god of this world. Without Jesus WE are in the EXACT same boat.
It is far easier to forgive someone that you have pity for.
ALL the people in my life that had abused me have done the same things that the people that abused you have done. They can't bear to acknowledge their own sin and so "rewrite" history. When I first "escaped" as a young adult this practice from them was so intense I doubted my own sanity. I couldn't even begin to grasp how they could have such drastically different recollection of the past from me. I understand ALL of what you are going through.
Ask God to put pity towards them into your heart and see just how fast you can be set free from the bondage of un-forgivness. Consider carefully WHO is actually suffering from your holding on to all that pain and un-forgiveness. YOU are the one suffering. YOU are the one "paying for it" YOU are the one being tormented.
When we forgive others it frees us from all that and breaks the spiritual chains that bind us to the abusers. It opens the door to you being able to lead them to Christ by your example.
You so desperately want them to validate you. Admit how terrible they are for what they did to you. You are convinced you NEED that in order to heal and move forward. Well I am here to tell you that you do NOT need it from them. God validates us, God justifies us! We do not need nay human to do it!
The Lord knows every sordid detail. He knew every single sin YOU committed against Him in response to their abuse of you. He knew every single time you grieved His heart by your own sinful reactions and actions to their abuse of you.He knows every evil thought you had against them. He was well aware of how bound in sin by satan YOU were.
He sees the WHOLE big picture. Yet He forgave you BEFORE you repented. He still took pity on you before you ever came to Him and died on that cross for you.
Look at the whole big picture and see it from THEIR perspective and GOD'S perspective and it will become easier for you to do as God did for you and forgive them. You will be able to take pity on them just as God did us.
If WE want to be forgiven by our Heavenly Father we MUST forgive others. If we do not forgive others we will not be forgiven. When we consider this just how important is it really that we keep holding on to that pain and bitterness? How important is it that we allow ourselves to be tortured by our pasts AND being unforgiven by God? It starts to seem very foolish on our parts when we look at the whole big picture for us to refuse to give up the un-forgivness in our hearts
Scriptures even tell us that God hands us over to the jailer to be tormented until we pay everything we owe if we do not forgive others as HE forgave us.
THEY may choose to hold onto the hurts of THEIR past and allow it to hurt others and themselves but WE have a God that is more than big enough, more than powerful enough, more than merciful enough to free us from those things and make us NEW creations in Christ. WE are the "lucky" ones that can choose to live free and in peace because WE chose to allow Jesus to be our savior, our DELIVERER, our HEALER!
It helps to forgive others when you look at things from THEIR prospective.Ask God to show you THEIR pain, their fears, the things that CAUSED them to treat you so badly. I can guarantee you that THEY didn't just wake up one day and say "Oh I am going to just abuse my child, make her feel useless, unloved, dirty and ashamed." Sinful things happened to THEM that CAUSED them to be the way they are.
That is how satan operates. Once he gets a foothold, he can waltz right in and put them in chains where they are unable to do what is right and good in God's eyes and become slaves to the god of this world. Without Jesus WE are in the EXACT same boat.
It is far easier to forgive someone that you have pity for.
ALL the people in my life that had abused me have done the same things that the people that abused you have done. They can't bear to acknowledge their own sin and so "rewrite" history. When I first "escaped" as a young adult this practice from them was so intense I doubted my own sanity. I couldn't even begin to grasp how they could have such drastically different recollection of the past from me. I understand ALL of what you are going through.
Ask God to put pity towards them into your heart and see just how fast you can be set free from the bondage of un-forgivness. Consider carefully WHO is actually suffering from your holding on to all that pain and un-forgiveness. YOU are the one suffering. YOU are the one "paying for it" YOU are the one being tormented.
When we forgive others it frees us from all that and breaks the spiritual chains that bind us to the abusers. It opens the door to you being able to lead them to Christ by your example.
You so desperately want them to validate you. Admit how terrible they are for what they did to you. You are convinced you NEED that in order to heal and move forward. Well I am here to tell you that you do NOT need it from them. God validates us, God justifies us! We do not need nay human to do it!
The Lord knows every sordid detail. He knew every single sin YOU committed against Him in response to their abuse of you. He knew every single time you grieved His heart by your own sinful reactions and actions to their abuse of you.He knows every evil thought you had against them. He was well aware of how bound in sin by satan YOU were.
He sees the WHOLE big picture. Yet He forgave you BEFORE you repented. He still took pity on you before you ever came to Him and died on that cross for you.
Look at the whole big picture and see it from THEIR perspective and GOD'S perspective and it will become easier for you to do as God did for you and forgive them. You will be able to take pity on them just as God did us.
If WE want to be forgiven by our Heavenly Father we MUST forgive others. If we do not forgive others we will not be forgiven. When we consider this just how important is it really that we keep holding on to that pain and bitterness? How important is it that we allow ourselves to be tortured by our pasts AND being unforgiven by God? It starts to seem very foolish on our parts when we look at the whole big picture for us to refuse to give up the un-forgivness in our hearts
Scriptures even tell us that God hands us over to the jailer to be tormented until we pay everything we owe if we do not forgive others as HE forgave us.
THEY may choose to hold onto the hurts of THEIR past and allow it to hurt others and themselves but WE have a God that is more than big enough, more than powerful enough, more than merciful enough to free us from those things and make us NEW creations in Christ. WE are the "lucky" ones that can choose to live free and in peace because WE chose to allow Jesus to be our savior, our DELIVERER, our HEALER!
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