My husband is a Christian, not a new one either, and has been lying to me.
He has lied about his inappropriate content addiction in the past. I found out b/c I confronted him with the truth that I knew what he was doing.
He hid bills from me so that I would not know what is really going on. He wasn't paying them. I found this out b/c calls started coming and I would sometimes get the mail and overdue bills would arrive. He came clean, but continued to do it.
Now, he's unemployed and I found out he's lied on his resume. I went to send it to some companies and went to review it to make sure it was current and it was a BIG FAT FAKE RESUME!! I confronted him, he seemed broken and even shed some tears.
I helped him fix it. That was Tuesday. So today, I was on the computer while he ran errans looking for jobs and pulled up his resume. He changed it and it's another FAKE resume. It even has yesterday's date, he sent it out.
Does he honestly thing God will bless him with a job??
The Bible speaks very clearly on lying and liars, even a "little white lie" is sin.
This is an integrity issue too. Employers do not want liars for employees. They will find out the truth, it will catch up with him.
What can I do?
He did agree to meet with a Pastor from our church this week. My plan is to bring this up. My husband, by his choices has broken trust in our marriage. Although he is forgiven by me, there are still consequences. I am considering removing him from our bank account and handing all finances until certain expectations can be met and he earns back the trust. Yes that is humbling, it's not what I want to do - but love is not about what we want to do all of the time.
We have two young children who are right now adversely affected by my husband's lying both directly and indirectly. His poor money managing and career choosing has forced me to go get a job to support us. Young children need a mom. Thank God, my job is from home though.
Also, kids model their parents. If they see Daddy lying, they may do it too.
Actually, my kids are more well behaved and obedient to me than my husband is to God right now.
I am heart broken over this, the condition of my husband's heart is hurting me.
Thanks for listening!! Can anyone relate? Any advice?
He has lied about his inappropriate content addiction in the past. I found out b/c I confronted him with the truth that I knew what he was doing.
He hid bills from me so that I would not know what is really going on. He wasn't paying them. I found this out b/c calls started coming and I would sometimes get the mail and overdue bills would arrive. He came clean, but continued to do it.
Now, he's unemployed and I found out he's lied on his resume. I went to send it to some companies and went to review it to make sure it was current and it was a BIG FAT FAKE RESUME!! I confronted him, he seemed broken and even shed some tears.
I helped him fix it. That was Tuesday. So today, I was on the computer while he ran errans looking for jobs and pulled up his resume. He changed it and it's another FAKE resume. It even has yesterday's date, he sent it out.
Does he honestly thing God will bless him with a job??
The Bible speaks very clearly on lying and liars, even a "little white lie" is sin.
This is an integrity issue too. Employers do not want liars for employees. They will find out the truth, it will catch up with him.
What can I do?
He did agree to meet with a Pastor from our church this week. My plan is to bring this up. My husband, by his choices has broken trust in our marriage. Although he is forgiven by me, there are still consequences. I am considering removing him from our bank account and handing all finances until certain expectations can be met and he earns back the trust. Yes that is humbling, it's not what I want to do - but love is not about what we want to do all of the time.
We have two young children who are right now adversely affected by my husband's lying both directly and indirectly. His poor money managing and career choosing has forced me to go get a job to support us. Young children need a mom. Thank God, my job is from home though.
Also, kids model their parents. If they see Daddy lying, they may do it too.
Actually, my kids are more well behaved and obedient to me than my husband is to God right now.
I am heart broken over this, the condition of my husband's heart is hurting me.
Thanks for listening!! Can anyone relate? Any advice?