Homosexuality

[jen_soccer13]

What do you do if you are having sexual thoughts for a person of the same sex? Is it wrong..or do we not know for sure?

 

[creep]

religously its wrong.
morally.. well thats up to you personally.
but the way i see it, is if you're gay then you're gay and there isn't a whole lot you can do about it(well there is. self denial for example)so you have to decide, for yourself, wheather this is the right step for you to take.also to consider the ramifications of your choice.. do they feel the same about you?

 

[Angel_Kissez]

Now I'm just stating my believes, so no one get mad at me.

I was raised up on homosexuality is a demon (We have various demons for different sins) And it makes you urge to do bad things. ummmm.....Just if it were me I would talk to a minister of my church for help with the problem. Thinking is one thing but it can lead to doing hun.

religously its wrong.
morally.. well thats up to you personally.
but the way i see it, is if you're gay then you're gay and there isn't a whole lot you can do about it(well there is. self denial for example)so you have to decide, for yourself, wheather this is the right step for you to take.also to consider the ramifications of your choice.. do they feel the same about you?

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

What creep said^^^.

If you are... you should pray about it... ask God to help you through it. Maybe you should try talking to guys more often... or make more guy friends. It might help.

Jo.

 

[kdet]

religously its wrong.
morally.. well thats up to you personally.
but the way i see it, is if you're gay then you're gay and there isn't a whole lot you can do about it(well there is. self denial for example)so you have to decide, for yourself, wheather this is the right step for you to take.also to consider the ramifications of your choice.. do they feel the same about you?

There is a lot a person can do about it....pray, pray ,pray. God hears our prayers and He answers our prayers, Praise God.

 

[jen_soccer13]

guys are the ones i have been abused by
they scared me

 

[JEFFisDEAF]

stay out of the wrong guys and find the better guys. it will take times.. be patience and u will get the right one(s).

 

[Angel_Kissez]

Find church going guys. They are the best kind. They share your intrests and they're kind!

guys are the ones i have been abused by
they scared me

 

[Mr.Cheese]

After reading some of Jen's posts, if she is finding herself attracted to females or a female, I can't blame her.
If I was her I would give up on guys too.
Therein lies something to think about.
I know a lot of girls who have been abused by males and they like girls now.

So...if, and I do mean if, if her attraction to girls is because of her trauma, then I would think that the most healthy course of action would be to try to work through the damage. No easy thing. It could take years to work through things like this. I dont' think there is any kind of damage like damage from sexual abuse.
Therefore, if this is the cause of her same sex attraction then I would consider the attraction a result of the damage inflicted upon her rather than her being gay.
Why do I make the distinction between "damaged" and "gay?" Because if she is broken, then I would rather her seek to find healing rather than live life damaged thinking that she was simply gay.
If any of you have not been abused in this way then praise God every day you get up.

I hope I have navigated these waters in a way that will be helpful to the girl and also in a way that has steered clear of opening up a discussion about "what is Gay?" I intended in no way to do so.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

P.S.
If you read some of her other posts, you will see that her situation is not caused by a poor choice of guys.
What hase happened to her and so many other girls is something that makes me want to break down and cry.

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

at Mr.Cheese. My thoughts exactly... i just have a hard time expressing them. Thanks Cheese.

Jo.

 

[creep]

alot of guys are, well, to put it nicely, massive jerks and a-holes. so are a gud few chicks too, but ina different way, anyway, the real trial in life is finding your way through this, to find somebody you can truly love. as mr.cheese was sayin tho, if you do decide to become gay, then please make sure it is for the right reasons

 

[Glorianna]

What do you do if you are having sexual thoughts for a person of the same sex? Is it wrong..or do we not know for sure?

It is very wrong. Pray that God will take the thoughts away. And actively refuse to think about such things. When you begin to, switch your mind to think about other things. This will soon become a habit.

 

[Godsgirl481]

stay out of the wrong guys and find the better guys. it will take times.. be patience and u will get the right one(s).

Hey Jeff
guys suck (no offense)

 

[creep]

yeah, but simply ignoring it and pretending that it's not there won't SOLVE the problem (if it is a problem) you have to work though it and decide for yourself.
(if you're religious and want help, then pray.Do whatever helps you)

 

[Godsgirl481]

I did the female thing in high school...and yes I was sexually abused all throughout my childhood....so guys scare me...people scare me. The girl thing didn't feel right...so I stopped after a few years of trying it

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Just wanted to restate that this girl didn't pick the wrong guys.
Read some of her other posts.

 

[Godsgirl481]

oh, I don't even know who you are talking about...I'm sorry...I just wanted to chime in

 

[carmi]

oh, I don't even know who you are talking about...I'm sorry...I just wanted to chime in

I don't think you need to be sorry. Mr. Cheese was reminding another poster that the girl did not pick the guys. I think you could help this girl a lot because you were at least in a similar position (abused and the fact that you were abused made you turn to girls).

 

[Godsgirl481]

abuse has made me turn to a lot of things...in school selling my body, girls, muliple people, animals, acting out a lot in the sex area of life....cutting....and recently a lot of bad drugs