Hi everyone,
My name is Alaina, my husband Zach and I have been married for 44 days! We met when we were 16 and 19, respectively, and have been together for 5 years as of next month. Things with our relationship are pretty good, but there is one area that I am just having the most difficult time with...
I was attending college to become a teacher when I first started at my university, I ended up changing majors to nursing, and Zach seemed supportive; however, when I got my acceptance letter to the nursing program he was definitely not happy. He didn't say it outright, I had to ask him, but I could tell. When I asked why he wasn't happy, he told me that it was because he didn't want me working as a nurse when we have children, and he thinks I would become too wrapped up in my career. I've spent the last year and a half trying to come up with ways for me to get my degree, work as a nurse, and be the mother that I hope to someday become. I loved nursing school so much, but about a month ago I decided to withdraw with his support. I've found that is extremely difficult for me to go from being constantly busy with lectures, clinicals, careplans, skills lab, to being at home feeling like I'm doing nothing.
I don't resent him for wanting me to leave the program, I agree with him. What is the point in spending thousands upon thousands of dollars on a degree that I won't really use, or want to use when we have children because we want to homeschool? No point.
My biggest struggle now, since I'm not working, is homemaking. We are currently trying for a baby and I know that I need to get my homemaking skills down before I bring a little baby into our cramped one bedroom apartment. While I was in school I was so overwhelmed with schoolwork that dishes, laundry, and let alone vacuuming were the last things on my mind, and even though I am no longer working or in school I feel like I spend most of my days trying to get motivated to put away our clean dishes and scrub our toilet. I hate feeling this way, I know that I need to do it and I know that I'll feel better about it once I finally have a schedule down, but right now it just sucks. So my main point is to any of you wives who stay home and focus on your homemaking, what are your daily routines like? how do you find the motivation to get this stuff done on days you really just don't want to do it?
My name is Alaina, my husband Zach and I have been married for 44 days! We met when we were 16 and 19, respectively, and have been together for 5 years as of next month. Things with our relationship are pretty good, but there is one area that I am just having the most difficult time with...
I was attending college to become a teacher when I first started at my university, I ended up changing majors to nursing, and Zach seemed supportive; however, when I got my acceptance letter to the nursing program he was definitely not happy. He didn't say it outright, I had to ask him, but I could tell. When I asked why he wasn't happy, he told me that it was because he didn't want me working as a nurse when we have children, and he thinks I would become too wrapped up in my career. I've spent the last year and a half trying to come up with ways for me to get my degree, work as a nurse, and be the mother that I hope to someday become. I loved nursing school so much, but about a month ago I decided to withdraw with his support. I've found that is extremely difficult for me to go from being constantly busy with lectures, clinicals, careplans, skills lab, to being at home feeling like I'm doing nothing.
I don't resent him for wanting me to leave the program, I agree with him. What is the point in spending thousands upon thousands of dollars on a degree that I won't really use, or want to use when we have children because we want to homeschool? No point.
My biggest struggle now, since I'm not working, is homemaking. We are currently trying for a baby and I know that I need to get my homemaking skills down before I bring a little baby into our cramped one bedroom apartment. While I was in school I was so overwhelmed with schoolwork that dishes, laundry, and let alone vacuuming were the last things on my mind, and even though I am no longer working or in school I feel like I spend most of my days trying to get motivated to put away our clean dishes and scrub our toilet. I hate feeling this way, I know that I need to do it and I know that I'll feel better about it once I finally have a schedule down, but right now it just sucks. So my main point is to any of you wives who stay home and focus on your homemaking, what are your daily routines like? how do you find the motivation to get this stuff done on days you really just don't want to do it?