Catherineanne
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- Sep 1, 2004
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I've had my share of heated arguments (not on CF, I'm too new here, but elsewhere), but mostly I think we've been able to handle those as grown ups.
I've had one situation though, which is a great grief to me. I spend quite a bit of time hanging out on a parenting forum, and there was another lady on that forum whom I also got to know and we became friends in real life; meals at each other's houses, kids hanging out together, the whole bit (this was before I was ordained).
And one day she disclosed to me that as a child she had been sexually abused by a priest of my denomination. I helped her find information and supported her through the reporting process. Her case was coming to court at about the time I was being ordained.
And suddenly she cut all contact with me. Would not answer messages. Would not speak to me. As best I can piece it together from mutual friends, the trial process was very damaging for her, and in some ways she blamed me for encouraging her into that course of action, and could not cope with the fact that I'd committed to the institution that was doing her so much damage.
That was bad enough, for we had been really good friends. But she also started to write nasty things about me in the forum, accuse me of being an abuse apologist, and all sorts of things; probably more that I don't know about, to other people that knew us both. And despite me reaching out to her, she has been unwilling to discuss any of this or attempt to reconcile.
At the end of the day, I know that her wounds are greater and she needs to do what she needs to do, but it has been very genuinely hurtful.
I am really sorry that happened.
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