I apologize if it sounded like I was talking about your situation. You presented the thread as general advice, so I was trying to stay on the topic of what thread visitors might benefit from.
I agree with you, that marriages can stay calmer when we don't expect everything to be managed perfectly, and keep our values centered on God rather than gain. I am just interjecting balance. It had nothing to do with your situation.
What with work schedules and this site getting whacked out for a while I was unable to reply.
I don't think you killed a thread, nor have you stepped beyond your bounds. In fact, the one post you are referring too had excellent points, some of which I have tucked away for possible use in the future.
I am partly to blame for those who are trying to "counsel" me. I shared a small window of the mansion of our marriage. What I mean is, we are multifaceted and there many dynamics in our relationships, as in all relationships. I made a passing comment on one area of weakness. I could easily paint a picture of an ogre of a man if all I talked about were my husband's shortcomings. However he has far more good traits than bad. I brought in one single thought because the Lord had ministered to me so, convicting me and taking me to a level of greater commitment and obedience on my part.
1 Peter 3 will speak to every wife, and husband too for they are admonished there as well, in a unique way for the Lord deals with us so personally and individually. To all wives, we are to respect our husbands. To every husband, he is to honor his wife.
If we skip back to Philippians 2 we see each one of us are to esteem the other higher than ourselves. Does this mean they are higher? No. It means we are to treat them highly, as of great value. Does this diminish our value? Well, let's look at Jesus.
Jesus, considered us more important. He left heaven for us, and gave himself up to be treated brutally so can be freed from sin and all its bondages. Did his lowering Himself diminish His value? I should think not! He is now ever more precious to us.
We are not to count our lives as something to be held onto, but rather to lay down in service for others.
Now that is what I call a rewarding life.