Disclaimer: By no means am I wanting [or have intentions to] to commit adultery against my wife.
That said...do you find it sinful to look at another woman and find her attractive? Like women on TV..,my wife and I seem to point out those who are attractive, but what about "real life?"
What does it mean to "lust" after another woman?
I think it means that you would be willing to commit adultery...but that seems like a slippery slope.
Is "wow...she's hot" a sin?
That is a very good question. The answer, in my view, is that it really depends on what's on your mind. There are two possible things that can be on your mind.
1) Finding a girl or a woman to be beautiful, physically attractive, sexually attractive (whatever you want to call it),
as long as that's all there is to it, is not a sin. God created beauty so that it could be appreciated. The Bible sometimes says that certain women were beautiful (e.g., Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel and many more). Of course that this cannot be sinful. If you look at a woman and think, ‘Wow! She is really beautiful!’, that is not sinful.
2) However, it can lead to sin. Jesus clearly warns us, in Matthew 5:27-28, saying:
‘You have heard that it was said, “You shall not commit adultery.” But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.’ What is the difference between this and what I explained in the previous paragraph? The difference is looking ‘
lustfully’. ‘Lust’, as the dictionary explains, is the desire to have something; it is related to the concepts of ‘greed’ and ‘jealousy’; in this context, it would mean to look at a woman and think, ‘Wow! I would like to
(clears throat) be with that girl (if you know what I mean).’ In other words, if you feel like you would like to have sex with her, that is a sin.
The problem with lust is that it is often automatic, and it sometimes happens without our realising it. This is a problem I am aware of, and from which I have suffered, praying, ‘Lord, I am so sorry that I looked at her thinking that!’ Only you know what you are thinking: it is not something about which I can categorically state, ‘What you have done is sinful’ or, ‘What you have done is not sinful’. When you look at a beautiful woman, only you know whether you are just looking at her because she is astonishingly beautiful or whether you also have sexual intentions.
I do not know about you, but I find that the likelihood that I will lust after a woman increases with 1) her beauty and 2) the area of skin exposed. That is why I have created the formula
a = b A (attention equals beauty times area). The second factor is probably the most important. I may be looking at a girl who is decent and just think, ‘Wow! She's pretty!’; but then, I may look at an equally beautiful girl who is more exposed, and think, ‘Wow! She is so sexy!’ I believe that this makes it clearer which one is wrong and which is OK.
To finalise, you asked, ‘Is thinking, “Wow! She's hot!” a sin?’ The answer depends on the idea you are attempting to transmit with the adjective ‘hot’. I tend to think of that adjective as implying some degree of sexual connotation (of the sort, ‘That is a girl with whom I would like to have sex’) — which expresses a desire for adultery, which, as we have seen, is wrong. However, if you use that adjective to mean simply ‘beautiful’ or ‘pretty’ or ‘cute’ (which is nonetheless contrary to the general idea which I have of its usage), that would be OK.
To summarise, only you know what's on your mind. Judge your actions for yourself!
I hope this has been helpful! Feel free to post again, or to leave me a private message, if you should have any more questions.