DZoolander
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- Apr 24, 2007
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To be honest - I would not be looking at having children as being the answer to your problems in connecting with your husband.
My wife and I have 2 kids. Know how much attention those kids require? 100%. I'm not being facetious or cavalier in that statement either.
Here's my schedule.
6:30am wake up with the boy. Feed him/take care of him until 7:30 when I shower/get ready for work. Leave the house at 8:00. Work until 5. Get home at 5:45. Play with the kids until the boy goes down at 7. Play with my daughter until she goes to bed at 8:30.
Here's my wife's schedule.
6:30 wake up and start getting ready for the day. 8:30 take the girl to school. 9:00 start working on the daily house stuff and take care of the boy. 1:00 pick up the girl from school and then take care of the kids 6pm. 6pm until 9:00 work on her business. 9:00pm tired/drained from the day and goes to bed.
Our entire day is centered around work and the kids, and we switch off duties as available. Our time to ourselves is negligible - and our time to devote to each other is even more remote. Our "connection" time has gone from all the time prior to having kids to virtually nothing for the past 5 years. We're never alone...and we used to enjoy spending alone time with each other.
So I'd be cautious if you're already having extreme difficulty in bonding with each other in thinking that kids will improve the situation. My experience is that it diminishes the possible time to do so.
My wife and I have 2 kids. Know how much attention those kids require? 100%. I'm not being facetious or cavalier in that statement either.
Here's my schedule.
6:30am wake up with the boy. Feed him/take care of him until 7:30 when I shower/get ready for work. Leave the house at 8:00. Work until 5. Get home at 5:45. Play with the kids until the boy goes down at 7. Play with my daughter until she goes to bed at 8:30.
Here's my wife's schedule.
6:30 wake up and start getting ready for the day. 8:30 take the girl to school. 9:00 start working on the daily house stuff and take care of the boy. 1:00 pick up the girl from school and then take care of the kids 6pm. 6pm until 9:00 work on her business. 9:00pm tired/drained from the day and goes to bed.
Our entire day is centered around work and the kids, and we switch off duties as available. Our time to ourselves is negligible - and our time to devote to each other is even more remote. Our "connection" time has gone from all the time prior to having kids to virtually nothing for the past 5 years. We're never alone...and we used to enjoy spending alone time with each other.
So I'd be cautious if you're already having extreme difficulty in bonding with each other in thinking that kids will improve the situation. My experience is that it diminishes the possible time to do so.
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