My wife and I have been married a little over a year. We met during our sophomore year in college, and instantly hit it off. Anyway, one of the thing we learned about ourselves is that we were both feminists, not in the crazy radical sense that men are inferior to women, but that men and women were equal. I was wondering if anyone else here has a feminist marriage? If so, what does that look like and mean to you? Here's what it means to us...
1) We are both equal in our relationship, neither one of us is the head of the other. Our decisions are made by reaching a mutual agreement, and our roles divided by who is better at said thing. There have been plenty of times where we both have submitted to the other's choice.
2) My father-in-law did walk my wife down the isle, but when asked "who gives this woman away?" He replied "Herself, her mother, and I." We didn't really see it as her becoming a part of my family, but us joining each other's family and starting our own. We did say the traditional vows, but left out "obey".
3) Throughout our relationship, we both have taken the other person out. As we got further along in the relationship, we would take turns paying for the meals or whatever we were doing. Now that we're married, we still toy with each other about whose turn is it to pay, but still take the other person out on dates.
4) I proposed to her. I also asked for her dad's permission, to which he (who is also feminist like his daughter) replied "You don't need my permission. You do have my blessing." I did wear a ring at times, not so much out of equality but more to get used to wearing a ring on my finger.
5) I took her last name. This was really more of a personal issue than a feminist issue, though feminism did influence my thought process into "you know, this in an option." I never really belonged in my family, and even then less so on my dad's side of my family, and she noticed the same thing. We both decided that both of us felt more apart of her family than my own, and so we decided that I would take on her last name.
I also do understand that there are a lot of misconceptions out there about feminism, which is also why I wanted to make this thread. If you have any questions, feel free to ask. I don't want this to turn into a debate about what the meaning of Ephesians 5:22 and Colossians 3:18, and so will not respond to any questions/posts regarding those verses.