Dear Anna,
Thanks for the kind words. I am sorry that you are frustrated.
Mate, you've managed to say something that didn't seem to take proper account of our suffering, and also went against the Biblical view of these matters.
Profound sorrow is the appropriate response to death. For this is what Jesus' own response was to the death of a friend. He expressed his sorrow: he wept. We are simply doing the same. So our response is the right one. And do not think that our grief at death is greater than God's, he gave his life to undo it's effects. We are not trying to be more spiritual than God, our sorrow at the death of our loved ones is merely a pale imitation of his.
Please don't say that we can't seem to get back on our feet and that we have no excuse and that we should get on with it. This comes across as judgmental and as failing to acknowledge how great our suffering is (unless you have been widowed too?). More importantly, I suspect that getting back on our feet in the sense you seem to mean is not something we ought to do. I will work through the suffering that God sends me, and hope that it brings me to perfection. But I won't, and shouldn't, do whatever it takes to make me happy or marriageable or acceptable to society. If that comes, then great. But I will pursue God's will first.
Furthermore, Paul advises against remarriage: "Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do." (1 Corinthians 7:8.) Personally, I don't want to get remarried, and I am glad that the Bible supports me. So perhaps the quote from Genesis is misapplied here.
Please, use more gentle and considerate words, even when you are frustrated.
Take care mate,
Kit