The site states that it is not about sexuality. It is about a relationship arrangement of male headship and female submission, with the woman being physically chastised at the will of the husband. Here is an excerpt from the website link on a couple of issues pertaining to the chastisement:
Quote:
"The woman who really understands what Loving Domestic Discipline is all about will realize that, during punishment time, she should not speak unless spoken to. Her HOH does not need to know that the spanking is hurting her. He already knows that because that is how the spanking is supposed to work. He does not need to know that she does not agree with her punishment. The decision to discipline her is his decision, not hers. He has decided to teach her a lesson for her own good. Whether she agrees or disagrees with him is immaterial at this point. She should be concentrating on showing sufficient submission and obedience to accept her punishment without questioning it or her HOH. After all, he is doing it for her own good.
This principle should be used in combination with a good dose of common sense. If the woman is in some kind of serious physical difficulty - e.g. she is having trouble breathing or she feels sick - then of course she should quickly communicate this to her HOH. Submission does not preclude a common sense approach to the disciplinary process. But she should ensure that her problem is real and not just a spurious excuse to pause or terminate her justly administered spanking. "
End of quote.
The Husband or HOH is enjoined to administer the pain to produce genuine, sufficient tears, in order to guarantee results. It appears that he is given a lot of leeway in pain administration.
Again, from the same website, quote on the problem of the wife YELLING, as it relates to the children or neighbors:
"YELLING
A punishment spanking is painful. No one would question that statement, because it is true. If a punishment spanking were not painful, it would not have the desired effect. But some women use the pain of their spanking to justify yelling and screaming at the top of their voices. They have learned not to question their HOH's sanity in disciplining them. They have learned not to swear at him when he is punishing his woman. But they have not learned that yelling and screaming excessively is also a strong form of disrespect.
No one would suggest that a woman should remain totally silent while she is receiving a spanking that is designed to teach her a lesson and bring her to tears. Even if she were totally silent, she will eventually end up crying and sobbing, which is very hard to do in silence. It is not that her HOH wants her to remain completely silent. It is that he does not want her to scream at the top of her lungs. She should not use her voice as an instrument of feminine rebellion and disrespect during her punishment spanking. Just because she is not abusing her HOH or swearing at him does not allow her to yell and scream as if she were going to die. She is not going to die from a spanking. She is just going to experience a lot of pain directed at a part of her body that can safely withstand a very firm spanking indeed. She is just going to feel substantially humbled by her experience. All of this will serve to teach her a useful lesson and to bring her much closer to her HOH. It is no cause for screaming hysterically. It would be appropriate for an HOH to give his woman a Disobedience Discipline if he felt that her hysterical screaming during her punishment spanking was both excessive and disobedient.
In addition to being a form of disobedience, screaming hysterically during a spanking also has other problems. Firstly, it increases the likelihood that the couple's children, if they have any, will hear their mother receiving her punishment spanking. This should not happen. The woman should be punished without her children hearing any aspect of her punishment. It is not appropriate for them to experience any part of their mother's punishment, because it is she who deserves to be punished, not the children.
It is always good for the HOH to inform his woman who is screaming loudly during her discipline that she is behaving not only disobediently towards her HOH, but also behaving irresponsibly towards her children. Her punishment is her own problem, not theirs. She should not involve her own children in her punishment by yelling so loudly that they hear. They did not misbehave - she did. She is the one who deserves to be punished, not them. Therefore she should restrain herself sufficiently so that her cries do not alert and alarm her children.
Another reason for the woman to moderate her screaming is that she increases the risk that the neighbors will hear her. While most neighbors will not intrude, it only takes one who suspects spousal abuse to make a report to the police or other authorities. If the police investigate further and are not understanding about the couple's Loving Domestic Discipline lifestyle, the woman risks losing her husband and perhaps even her children, in a worst case scenario. So it is vitally important that she learns to moderate her cries while she is being punished for misbehavior."
It is the wife's fault if she yells during the abuse? I am surprised the author did not advise to gag her.
I don't even think that practitioners of B&D are this hardcore. This is a manual on physical abuse.
The author of this brutal screed should received some discipline himself, hopefully from a jail cell with others who believe in his same dog-eat-dog philosophy.
Quote:
"The woman who really understands what Loving Domestic Discipline is all about will realize that, during punishment time, she should not speak unless spoken to. Her HOH does not need to know that the spanking is hurting her. He already knows that because that is how the spanking is supposed to work. He does not need to know that she does not agree with her punishment. The decision to discipline her is his decision, not hers. He has decided to teach her a lesson for her own good. Whether she agrees or disagrees with him is immaterial at this point. She should be concentrating on showing sufficient submission and obedience to accept her punishment without questioning it or her HOH. After all, he is doing it for her own good.
This principle should be used in combination with a good dose of common sense. If the woman is in some kind of serious physical difficulty - e.g. she is having trouble breathing or she feels sick - then of course she should quickly communicate this to her HOH. Submission does not preclude a common sense approach to the disciplinary process. But she should ensure that her problem is real and not just a spurious excuse to pause or terminate her justly administered spanking. "
End of quote.
The Husband or HOH is enjoined to administer the pain to produce genuine, sufficient tears, in order to guarantee results. It appears that he is given a lot of leeway in pain administration.
Again, from the same website, quote on the problem of the wife YELLING, as it relates to the children or neighbors:
"YELLING
A punishment spanking is painful. No one would question that statement, because it is true. If a punishment spanking were not painful, it would not have the desired effect. But some women use the pain of their spanking to justify yelling and screaming at the top of their voices. They have learned not to question their HOH's sanity in disciplining them. They have learned not to swear at him when he is punishing his woman. But they have not learned that yelling and screaming excessively is also a strong form of disrespect.
No one would suggest that a woman should remain totally silent while she is receiving a spanking that is designed to teach her a lesson and bring her to tears. Even if she were totally silent, she will eventually end up crying and sobbing, which is very hard to do in silence. It is not that her HOH wants her to remain completely silent. It is that he does not want her to scream at the top of her lungs. She should not use her voice as an instrument of feminine rebellion and disrespect during her punishment spanking. Just because she is not abusing her HOH or swearing at him does not allow her to yell and scream as if she were going to die. She is not going to die from a spanking. She is just going to experience a lot of pain directed at a part of her body that can safely withstand a very firm spanking indeed. She is just going to feel substantially humbled by her experience. All of this will serve to teach her a useful lesson and to bring her much closer to her HOH. It is no cause for screaming hysterically. It would be appropriate for an HOH to give his woman a Disobedience Discipline if he felt that her hysterical screaming during her punishment spanking was both excessive and disobedient.
In addition to being a form of disobedience, screaming hysterically during a spanking also has other problems. Firstly, it increases the likelihood that the couple's children, if they have any, will hear their mother receiving her punishment spanking. This should not happen. The woman should be punished without her children hearing any aspect of her punishment. It is not appropriate for them to experience any part of their mother's punishment, because it is she who deserves to be punished, not the children.
It is always good for the HOH to inform his woman who is screaming loudly during her discipline that she is behaving not only disobediently towards her HOH, but also behaving irresponsibly towards her children. Her punishment is her own problem, not theirs. She should not involve her own children in her punishment by yelling so loudly that they hear. They did not misbehave - she did. She is the one who deserves to be punished, not them. Therefore she should restrain herself sufficiently so that her cries do not alert and alarm her children.
Another reason for the woman to moderate her screaming is that she increases the risk that the neighbors will hear her. While most neighbors will not intrude, it only takes one who suspects spousal abuse to make a report to the police or other authorities. If the police investigate further and are not understanding about the couple's Loving Domestic Discipline lifestyle, the woman risks losing her husband and perhaps even her children, in a worst case scenario. So it is vitally important that she learns to moderate her cries while she is being punished for misbehavior."
It is the wife's fault if she yells during the abuse? I am surprised the author did not advise to gag her.
I don't even think that practitioners of B&D are this hardcore. This is a manual on physical abuse.
The author of this brutal screed should received some discipline himself, hopefully from a jail cell with others who believe in his same dog-eat-dog philosophy.
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