how are things going with your wife? Per your last update, it seemed like you had both given up. I'm not surprised you are struggling with crushes on other women when you have basically given up on your marriage and family. You need to cut this other woman out of your life NOW. You have received a lot of good advice in this thread, I have to wonder, are you heeding it? Have you gotten serious about this? There are situations that warrant divorce, but you've given us nothing to indicate that this is the case with your wife. What's going on?
Me and the wife are 'friends'.
I have asked her if she loves me but she has stated 'never' will again. As i pointed out before, the situation was like this for years before i had an affair.
Yes, you are right that i should cut ties with this other woman. I have done this already, this weekend. I have emailed her and told her this. She is not at all happy and emailed me back. I replied today saying it has to be over! However much i have feelings for this other woman i have told her it cannot continue!!
I went to confession on sat and talked to priest about it. Good advice given as always but so very very hard not to think of this other woman. I am determined though to get her out of my mind / life. I WANT GOD MORE!
I am hoping the the wife and I will remain good friends. She said she would not kick me out. She said we only together because of our child. I want to be there for my child.
I made a pact with myself on saturday that as and from that day i am going to try really hard not to 'lust' over this other woman and to pray better, harder, more sincerely. I am so determined, however hard it is going to be.
I do need help, i know. But, i want help from my church. I have been seeing a couple of people who have helped me in the church.
I just pray that God will help me and that he will help my wife. Whatever is in my future i know that i want God there to guiding me.
Thanks for your concerns