Do you ever beat yourself up for what you've said?

[sampa]

Do you ever go home and feel like, I just couldn't seem to say the right things? or why did everything I said seem to just not go right?

 

[mina]

yes, i have felt like that before.

 

[Nilloc]

Do you ever go home and feel like, I just couldn't seem to say the right things? or why did everything I said seem to just not go right?

That happens to me pretty much everytime I open my mouth.

 

[sampa]

That happens to me pretty much everytime I open my mouth.

not good, really not good. I hope you are able to take something good out of a conversation once in a while NILLOC?

Thanks Mina for the hug. It sucks when you feel this way, and worse when one can discern that they are usually lies from the enemy.

 

[EyesOfKohl]

Yes, but don't worry, you can make things right next time you talk to the person.

 

[sampa]

Good point Zatara, I needed that reminder.

 

[GoodNewsJim]

I'd rather beat myself up for something I said than someone else beat me up from something I said.

 

[sampa]

haha Good News you made me laugh, good one.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

That happens to me pretty much everytime I open my mouth.

Lol...same here.

 

[Nilloc]

not good, really not good. I hope you are able to take something good out of a conversation once in a while NILLOC?

Even a broken clock's right twice a day, and like that clock, the few times I am right are short-lived and infrequent.

 

[tcwoods91]

I used to beat myself up all the time. Then I realized that it was Satan trying to get me to feel guilty. This is far different than feeling convicted by the Holy Spirit about what we said. When we are beating ourselves up is when we have bought into a lie. The Bible says that there is no condemnation in Christ Jesus. This is just as true when we are talking about what we have said. As we come to know God in a deeper and deeper way we find that we don't need to beat ourselves up over what we have said in the past, while at the same time allowing God to transform our way of speech to bring Him glory in the future!

 

[toastface_grillah]

Ugh, that happens way too often; either some part of me will say maybe 30 seconds later, "you f---ed up;" or I'll come away from a conversation or a brief interaction wishing I'd phrased something differently. It ranks higher than waterboarding on the torture scale.
On the bright side, this happened a few weeks ago while I was having a cup of coffee - and a deep conversation - with a friend. I came away from it wishing I'd explained something more clearly. Instead of the usual beating myself up, I texted her with what I'd really meant to say. She thanked me, saying that she understood it much better.

 

[HazelWings]

Do you ever go home and feel like, I just couldn't seem to say the right things? or why did everything I said seem to just not go right?

 

[Thunder Peel]

I once told someone that Attack of the Clones was better than The Phantom Menace. I've regretted it ever since.

 

[Shadolus]

Funny, b/c I always seem to have the perfect thing in mind to say but it usually comes out sounding quite different lol.

 

[MehGuy]

Yeah, and gave myself a shiny black eye.

 

[Mydnyte]

Do you ever go home and feel like, I just couldn't seem to say the right things? or why did everything I said seem to just not go right?

Yeah, there's been times I look back and wish I would have said something that I left unsaid. I do think I'm getting better though.

 

[Stravinsk]

Do you ever go home and feel like, I just couldn't seem to say the right things? or why did everything I said seem to just not go right?

Sampa - you're going through alot right now, and you're taking medication that you know effects your mind a bit. Making all kinds of life changes, diet changes etc all of a sudden is not easy. Self correction is fine - but try not to be so hard on yourself. You'll grow in the areas you want to with positive reinforcement rather than harsh self criticism.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Usually TMI situations

 

[sampa]

...... Instead of the usual beating myself up, I texted her with what I'd really meant to say. She thanked me, saying that she understood it much better.

sounds like a good outcome toastface_grillah

thank you Hazel.

Sampa - you're going through alot right now, and you're taking medication that you know effects your mind a bit. Making all kinds of life changes, diet changes etc all of a sudden is not easy. Self correction is fine - but try not to be so hard on yourself. You'll grow in the areas you want to with positive reinforcement rather than harsh self criticism.

Stravinsk, thank you, yes there are a lot of life changes. But the topic has been something much of my life and i think others also. At the same time I do have to fight things a lot more in my thinking and not listen to the lies of the accuser more often as things have changed. I like the idea of having another opportunity to talk to someone. At the same time there are those that in life who never wanted to have another word with me and walked the other way....those siutations I was pretty much helpless and have learned I have to move on and its not worth it.