After decades as a Christian and going from one church to another, I have finally come to realize that I face a serious problem. I am a Calvinistic Baptistic cessationistic evangelical and it seems to me that all theologically conservative churches fall into two groups that I find disagreeable in some ways:
Group A Churches:
These are the modern evangelical churches. I don't like (more often, can't stand) the following:
1) The modern praise-and-worship songs. You may think this is a small thing but how do I worship God with songs filled with paltry, superficial lyrics? And I really hate drums and electric guitars during worship. The worst is when a rare hymn makes an appearance and the drummer puts on a martial beat. I honestly wanna puke!
2) These churches have no stated doctrinal stand except for the most basic. Their theological stand is dependent on who the latest pastor is. There's a Baptist church I usually attend which is currently cessationistic but used to insist that all its members make a personal pledge that all the spiritual gifts are still being given today (and I was politely told to leave!).
Group B Churches:
These are the fundamentalist or semi-fundamentalist churches. I can't stand these:
1) Some of them are KJV-Only churches.
2) Some are against learning Koine Greek and the use of the Greek New Testament.
3) Many are against today's evangelical scholars and their works. I study the Bible using modern commentaries and I find it objectionable that pastors can oppose the accomplished work of these Godly men (and women).
4) All hold to some kind of a separatist stand applied to the larger evangelical body. I understand that there are many things wrong in the evangelical world but it is sinful to separate ourselves from our brothers and sisters who honor the Lord and His Word just because of some differences.
How do I find a church I can belong to? Even the Reformed Baptist Church, what I would consider to be a theological custom-fit for me, is firmly entrenched in Group B.
I'm not very familiar with a few of the tags you have put on yourself. I have no idea what a cessationist is, for instance. But looking at a few of your complaints about churches, I do sympathize. If you agree with these statements (The Apostle's Creed), then I have 2 recommendations to explore, if you're interested. Other than that, I'm sure you'll lot's of recommendations from others.
These statements are meant for personal reflection. I have no expectation of an answer here on these public forums. These are between you and God. If you find you agree with all the statements, then I recommend looking into your local Eastern Orthodox, Eastern Catholic, or Roman Catholic parish. These 3, (2 really), observe and believe all elements of the creed. May God bless and guide you in your journey, and peace be with you.
I believe in God, the father almighty
I believe in Jesus Christ, His only Son, Our Lord
Who was conceived by the Holy Spirit
Born of the Virgin Mary
Suffered under Pontius Pilate
Was crucified, died, and was buried
He descended into Hell
He rose again on the third day
He ascended into Heaven, and is seated at the right hand of the Father
From thence He shall come to judge the living and the dead.
I believe in the Holy Spirit
The Holy *catholic (universal) Church
The communion of Saints
The forgiveness of sins
The resurrection of body
And Life in the world to come