Pal Handy
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Great advice...I do not want to offend anyone or start any kind of debate, so please, if what I say offends you, don't take it personally.
I have read most of the post in this thread and thus far I have not seen an answer for this young man that he has not either already concidered or attempted. Job made a convenat with his eyes. Job didn't live in a society that promoates woman wear no more than skimpy underwear as their only form of clothing and walking the halls and malls. So, this suggestion is not applicable. Paul said get married. Ha. That means finding the right woman, dating, engagement then marriage and THEN your problem is solved, in theory. Give your will over to God. Easy statement to write. Impossible for any man to do. Don't believe me? Find me a saved person who since they have been saved has not made one single choice that was not self motivated. Don't try. You will only be depressed when you can't even make it past the mirror.
OP, if you look at my info you will see that I have only started one thread. And in that thread you will read that I have fallen to the sins of lust of the eyes....more than once. I just found out today what will help me with this. Love. In my case the love of my wife. When I think of another woman I now get a pain in my heart. When I browse the net and come across a harmless site that has an advertisement with tempting women, I get a pain in my heart. The love of a woman is the only thing I can come up with that will block out the lust of the eyes. Now, "I don't have a wife" you say. I know. But you do have a mother. The love my wife showed me today was the kind of unconditional love a parent shows a child. I have four children. There is not a force on this earth that could make me forsake them. None. Your mother feels that way about you I'm sure, or at least, I pray she does. Look at a woman with lust in your eyes, then think of your mother sitting next to you. Imagine doing sinful things with that woman, then try to imagine your mother watching. It may sound contrite and too simple, but it's the only thing I can think of to help you that you yourself have not thought of and tried. Call your mother. Talk to her. Ask her to tell you the stories of all she gave up for you. All the pain she suffered for you. All the things she protected you from. Then put her face on one of the bodies of the woman you have lusted after. It'll stop you dead in your tracks. The closest thing a single man has to the love his wife will give him is the love of his mother.
I truly hope you overcome this demon. I failed, for so long. And now I carry the burden of raising two sons and two daughters. The idea of one of my sons looking and thinking as I have before makes me sick. The idea of some man looking at my daughters like I used to look at other mens daughters makes me shamed and angry. Please don't let yourself get to a point where you have the kind of cross to bare that I do. If you would like further communications, feel free to PM me.
Praying for you Brother.
I would add this to anyone struggling with any sin....
Don't beat yourself up...
God made a way for poor sinners like you and me to escape
what we all deserve and to find favor in the eyes of our God.
My sig line says it all...we are the righeousness of God in Christ.
I know it isn't easy to let go but God tells us to...
Who are we to hold God at arms length and say...your grace and
mercy isn't good enough for me.
When you fall you get up and run to God...
That's what all children do...
They do something that they know was wrong and then
they run back to the only source of love and
help they know.
You already know the whole "should God's
grace lead us to sin more" that Paul spoke of.
But there is also the desire of God that we would not cover ourselves
with our own ways of trying to atone for our sins and to expose
ourselves to Him, receive Christ's forgiveness and go on.
The relationship is crucial...
If we keep coming back to God and asking for His help,
He will help us change.
If we think we are alone and God is angry with us and we need to
get it together before God will want to have anything to do with us, we
have believed the lie and the devil will have placed a wedge between us
and our source of love and help.
God loves us absolutely.
God has joined Himself to you and I through the marriage of
His son to you the bride of Christ, all of the believers.
Is there anything you or I could do to make God love us anymore
that He loves us now in Christ?
Is there anything you or I could do to make God love us
any less than God loves us in Christ?
Christ is the answer....so call on Him and ask Him to do in your
life what you have been powerless to do on your own.
Cast all your cares on Him for He cares for you....
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