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For people getting set for serious dating in a quest for that special someone, I highly recommend Dr. James Dobson's book: Love Must Be Tough (ISBN 1-59052-355-5) which contains a chapter on Loving Toughness For Singles that if observed, will spare them a lot of difficulty.
A must dating book by another Christian author is: How To Get A Date Worth Keeping (ISBN 0-310-26265-8) by Dr. Henry Cloud. Dr. Cloud is actually a dating coach who's helped lots of people overcome their own bad habits and subconscious barriers to meeting people. For example: without even realizing it; many of us have a way of giving the impression to prospective dates that we're indifferent, that we'd just as soon not be bothered to move on, that we're not interested in a relationship, that we're unavailable and then wonder why nobody wants to go out with us. Do'h!
An additional dating book, which is a bit more appropriate for Christians, is Dating With Pure Passion (emphasis on pure) by Rob Eager (ISBN - 13: 978-0-7369-1670-7 and ISBN - 10: 0-7369-1670-9).
Neither Dr. Cloud's nor Rob Eager's book is the perfect dating reference, but taken together, they cover just about every problem that most people encounter in the dating world; especially one's own personal problems that need to be rectified prior to initiating a long-term commitment to someone. They say knowledge is power. Well ...in this endeavor, you need lots of it if you wish to succeed. The books I recommended will certainly put you a leg up on all the self confident lame-brains who barge into a relationship without knowing what they're doing.
You know, there are people who just seem to be born with all the right social skills pre-installed at conception; but many of us are not like that. We need direction if we're ever to succeed in achieving some measure of happiness before it's too late.
Just a word of caution: many of Dr. Cloud's guidelines are very, very good. But never lose sight of who you are. Keep in mind that if you're a born-again Christian, then you have a sacred obligation to honor Christ in all areas of your life. There are some suggestions of Dr. Cloud's that will just simply be out of the question for you. Born-again Christians really shouldn't be dating just anybody. Be mindful of the boundaries, and stay in your own sphere.
C.L.I.F.F.
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For people getting set for serious dating in a quest for that special someone, I highly recommend Dr. James Dobson's book: Love Must Be Tough (ISBN 1-59052-355-5) which contains a chapter on Loving Toughness For Singles that if observed, will spare them a lot of difficulty.
A must dating book by another Christian author is: How To Get A Date Worth Keeping (ISBN 0-310-26265-8) by Dr. Henry Cloud. Dr. Cloud is actually a dating coach who's helped lots of people overcome their own bad habits and subconscious barriers to meeting people. For example: without even realizing it; many of us have a way of giving the impression to prospective dates that we're indifferent, that we'd just as soon not be bothered to move on, that we're not interested in a relationship, that we're unavailable and then wonder why nobody wants to go out with us. Do'h!
An additional dating book, which is a bit more appropriate for Christians, is Dating With Pure Passion (emphasis on pure) by Rob Eager (ISBN - 13: 978-0-7369-1670-7 and ISBN - 10: 0-7369-1670-9).
Neither Dr. Cloud's nor Rob Eager's book is the perfect dating reference, but taken together, they cover just about every problem that most people encounter in the dating world; especially one's own personal problems that need to be rectified prior to initiating a long-term commitment to someone. They say knowledge is power. Well ...in this endeavor, you need lots of it if you wish to succeed. The books I recommended will certainly put you a leg up on all the self confident lame-brains who barge into a relationship without knowing what they're doing.
You know, there are people who just seem to be born with all the right social skills pre-installed at conception; but many of us are not like that. We need direction if we're ever to succeed in achieving some measure of happiness before it's too late.
Just a word of caution: many of Dr. Cloud's guidelines are very, very good. But never lose sight of who you are. Keep in mind that if you're a born-again Christian, then you have a sacred obligation to honor Christ in all areas of your life. There are some suggestions of Dr. Cloud's that will just simply be out of the question for you. Born-again Christians really shouldn't be dating just anybody. Be mindful of the boundaries, and stay in your own sphere.
C.L.I.F.F.
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