I'm sure this has been done before but threads disappear like crazy here!
So what is your approach? Do you actively seek out dates or do you kind of just stay back and let God bring that person to you instead of going to find them? I mean I'm sure this has a lot to do with personality too; I'm not a person who will actively seek someone out. I would never think of asking a guy out on a date lol..not that there's anything wrong with that but it's just not me.
I have taken the stance of saying 'God will bring it to me when I'm ready'. I have been through some crappy relationships and actually was 3 weeks from getting married back in 2008 before it was called off. I have dated here and there since then but in that time I wasn't living a Christian life and some of the people I "dated" the relationship was actually not based on a real connection, but instead other un-Christian things. I decided about a year ago that that wasn't going to happen anymore and that I wouldn't do that to my relationship with God.
Now it's been since then that I've had so much as a phone call from a guy. But I truly feel like this is where God wants me right now and that he will make it happen when he wants to - but now is not the time. I don't feel like he wants me seeking out love interests at this time. I'm hoping this is not my brain using it as a cop out to not find someone, but I've been known to manipulate myself a time or two before without really realizing it lol.
So for now I've put it in God's hands and feel like he'll lead me to love or bring it to me when the time is right and that I need to just sit back and wait for it right now. But maybe I'm just leading myself into a life of being lonely? Ugh, who knows.
What are your guys approaches and what do you think?
So what is your approach? Do you actively seek out dates or do you kind of just stay back and let God bring that person to you instead of going to find them? I mean I'm sure this has a lot to do with personality too; I'm not a person who will actively seek someone out. I would never think of asking a guy out on a date lol..not that there's anything wrong with that but it's just not me.
I have taken the stance of saying 'God will bring it to me when I'm ready'. I have been through some crappy relationships and actually was 3 weeks from getting married back in 2008 before it was called off. I have dated here and there since then but in that time I wasn't living a Christian life and some of the people I "dated" the relationship was actually not based on a real connection, but instead other un-Christian things. I decided about a year ago that that wasn't going to happen anymore and that I wouldn't do that to my relationship with God.
Now it's been since then that I've had so much as a phone call from a guy. But I truly feel like this is where God wants me right now and that he will make it happen when he wants to - but now is not the time. I don't feel like he wants me seeking out love interests at this time. I'm hoping this is not my brain using it as a cop out to not find someone, but I've been known to manipulate myself a time or two before without really realizing it lol.
So for now I've put it in God's hands and feel like he'll lead me to love or bring it to me when the time is right and that I need to just sit back and wait for it right now. But maybe I'm just leading myself into a life of being lonely? Ugh, who knows.
What are your guys approaches and what do you think?