Yes, I've heard this from other people but it doesn't answer my question, sorry.kspchemist said:Techinally you are still married. Therefore no dating until the separation is finalized.
KelliP72 said:Is there a moral or Biblical reason why you shouldn't date after you are seperated but before a divorce is final? No, there is no chance of reconciliation.
KelliP72 said:I know, I have heard that from a few people including a close friend. But why? Does it really matter whether its 'official' or not? Its not really a big deal anyway. I'm not dating anyone right now but there is a guy I work with who is really nice, and single and I could see myself in a relationship with him. Anyway my divorce will be final within a few months so its not really a problem.
I find it interesting that a christian woman is talking about dating before or after a divorce, given Jesus' teachings on divorce.KelliP72 said:Is there a moral or Biblical reason why you shouldn't date after you are seperated but before a divorce is final? No, there is no chance of reconciliation.
If you want to be told Not to, you came to the right place. If you want to, don't tell anyone.KelliP72 said:Is there a moral or Biblical reason why you shouldn't date after you are seperated but before a divorce is final? No, there is no chance of reconciliation.
I say it because Jesus is pretty darn clear on divorce - don't.KelliP72 said:Why do you say that? I asked for a Biblical or moral reason and so far I've been given opinions but nothing else. If Jesus said I shouldn't date before or after my divorce then please show me where instead of talking down to me like it should be obvious to me.
No; I'm saying that that's what Jesus said. Or, at least, that that's what he is recorded as saying.KelliP72 said:So you're saying that it's OK for a man to divorce his wife and then remarry, but it's not OK for a woman to do the same?
Arturis illustrates my point perfectly. Here is Jesus' own words, explicitly stating what you shall and shall not do...and because what they state is so morally awful, he rationalises that what was really MEANT was something that he, himself, finds moral.Arturis said:I think Jesus was referring to a socially accepted and common practice of the time of a man being able to easily divorce a woman on a whim. I think it more a warning to keep marriage sacred, as it should be.
I think divorce is only right in the eyes of god if it for good reason. I seriously doubt that god would condemn a woman from divorcing her husband if he abused her or their children and then remarrying someone who loves her and treats her children with love.
The Bellman said:Arturis illustrates my point perfectly. Here is Jesus' own words, explicitly stating what you shall and shall not do...and because what they state is so morally awful, he rationalises that what was really MEANT was something that he, himself, finds moral.
This is (fortunately) what christians all over the place do - they have their own views of what is moral, which differ greatly from what the bible teaches. So they "interpret" what the bible says to actually support their own moral views. This demonstrates that what the bible actually says is NOT the basis of people's moral views (thankfully).
I am not saying that at all. I am saying that that is precisely what Jesus said. You think that what he said is so immoral that you "interpret" it to mean something completely the opposite to what he actually did say, and you have an image of God as a moral being, which means he couldn't have taken such an immoral position - so he must have meant something different to what he actually said. Which is exactly what christians all over the world constantly do in regard to some of the hideous morality expressed in the bible.Arturis said:- So what you are saying then is that god would condemned a woman for divorcing her husband even if he physically or sexually abused, mistreated or endangered the life of her or her children? That doesn't sound like the god I know. Who's morals are we talking about here? This is the same Jesus who kicked the moneychangers out of the temple in a fit of righteousness but would sit back and tell a woman to grin and bear it in an unhealthy or dangerous marriage? Please.
This is not a matter of interpretation but rather one of rationality. I happen to think that god is more rational than that. Wasn't it Jesus himself who stated that it was the "spirit of the law" was more important than the letter of it? According to you its the letter of the law that is greater even though Jesus explicitly said the contrary. Who's interpretation in this matter is the correct one then? There can be only one truth.