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I'm not sure why this seems to be so difficult for me to figure out.
Maybe because different jurisdictions look at things differently, and I've read and heard some really conflicting information. And I know I should probably ask Father.
I'm a little hesitant to ask him because I think he's probably pretty overworked. No deacon, only one priest, and lately we haven't even had chanters or readers during weekday liturgies, and the parish is probably the upper limit size for one priest, and he is happily expecting his third child soon (the first two are still small!). And add to that, I think Greeks consider confession more than twice a year to be "frequent". I've stretched things out and been 3 times in less than 6 months.
So those are the reasons I'm hesitant.
What I want to ask is this ...
I'm still figuring kind of what confession is for. The checklists ask you to go over all these sins as if they're a shopping list, and check them off. But some teachers insist that's not what confession is about.
And I don't have anything grievous to confess. Father may wonder why the urgency? But here's the thing. I've become so aware of how un-Christ-like I am in my heart. I'm constantly reminded. It's feeling like a burden, and yes, it's getting heavy, and I feel like I want to go to confession.
But the thing is, I'm also aware that after confession, I'm still going to be me. Throughout my life, I'm going to remain soooooo far short of Christ. So does it even make sense to want to confess for that reason?
I don't feel barred from communion, and indeed, I always receive it. So I guess I am not sure about troubling Father, who is so busy, over something that isn't going to change to a great degree, and I don't know how I SHOULD be thinking about this?
I've even thought about finding out if Antiochians confess more often and maybe going to the other priest, if he already plans to hear confession regularly. But Father knows me, and gives good advice, and I've come to trust him. I am not sure I could even explain what I'm feeling to a different priest. Though I do know him to be very kind and helpful.
Maybe because different jurisdictions look at things differently, and I've read and heard some really conflicting information. And I know I should probably ask Father.
I'm a little hesitant to ask him because I think he's probably pretty overworked. No deacon, only one priest, and lately we haven't even had chanters or readers during weekday liturgies, and the parish is probably the upper limit size for one priest, and he is happily expecting his third child soon (the first two are still small!). And add to that, I think Greeks consider confession more than twice a year to be "frequent". I've stretched things out and been 3 times in less than 6 months.
So those are the reasons I'm hesitant.
What I want to ask is this ...
I'm still figuring kind of what confession is for. The checklists ask you to go over all these sins as if they're a shopping list, and check them off. But some teachers insist that's not what confession is about.
And I don't have anything grievous to confess. Father may wonder why the urgency? But here's the thing. I've become so aware of how un-Christ-like I am in my heart. I'm constantly reminded. It's feeling like a burden, and yes, it's getting heavy, and I feel like I want to go to confession.
But the thing is, I'm also aware that after confession, I'm still going to be me. Throughout my life, I'm going to remain soooooo far short of Christ. So does it even make sense to want to confess for that reason?
I don't feel barred from communion, and indeed, I always receive it. So I guess I am not sure about troubling Father, who is so busy, over something that isn't going to change to a great degree, and I don't know how I SHOULD be thinking about this?
I've even thought about finding out if Antiochians confess more often and maybe going to the other priest, if he already plans to hear confession regularly. But Father knows me, and gives good advice, and I've come to trust him. I am not sure I could even explain what I'm feeling to a different priest. Though I do know him to be very kind and helpful.